People telling you to snap out of depression, irritating?

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Hmm yea I agree. I noticed that some people don't do their research because they are afraid that they will realize they have been wrong the whole time (in regards to a debate taking place).

I had a pretty extreme form of depression where I slowly lost my ability to move or think AT ALL. Without treatment it wound up that I laid in bed 24/7 with the covers over my head, unable to even put on any clothes or even make myself a simple bowl of cereal. The only reason I'd get out of bed was to pee, and only when I couldn't hold it anymore.

So people were telling me, "You have to FIGHT it! You have to make yourself get up and do things!"

Well, duh. Obviously I know intellectually I have to get up and do things. But I am so lethargic that it feels like I am in the gravity of Jupiter and like I'm trying to swim through molasses. Simply going to the bathroom takes the same effort that it would take a normal person to run a marathon. It is already taking 100% of my energy, effort, concentration and willpower just to get a drink of water once or twice a day. And I always fill a big bottle with water because I can't be sure when I'll be able to get up to refill it. And just forget about food unless it's eating cold cheese or sandwich meat straight from the fridge, if I can even make it to the fridge or remember to eat anything at all.

Plus I have zero mental concentration and the simplest task, like putting on both socks, becomes as confusing and complicated as solving advanced trigonometry. It takes me a half hour just to find two socks, which aren't guaranteed to be either clean or to match each other. And another half hour to put them on my feet. Plus I haven't bathed or brushed my hair in who knows how many weeks, and those tasks are so overwhelmingly complicated and difficult that I can't even get started.

So if Mr. or Mrs. "You Have To Make Yourself Do Things" would kindly feed me, water me, bathe me, dress me, do my hair, and pull me around in a little cart because I have no energy to walk, I would very gladly take a ride in the damn sunshine!! !

So, screw it, I went on antidepressants. And lo and behold, two to three days later I am full of life and bathing myself and getting dressed, and going to the store. Obviously it was a brain chemical imbalance. Chemicals can't be balanced through sheer force of will! To the people who told me to just try harder, I wish my fate on them so they know how it feels!

yeah I hate it when people tell me to just "snap out of it." terrible things happened to me as a child and I will probably always be depressed about it.

I suffered terribly from depression, and I felt it was getting worse by the year. On new year's day this year I had a terrible rage outburst; crying, hitting myself repeatedly, swearing, and even threatening to commit suicide. I began looking very pale and tired, and there was something in my eyes that made some people say that I looked harassed. I felt I was becoming mentally ill, and I really didn't want it to resort to meds but it had to be done. So I made myself an appointment with the doctor.

I have told a few people that I am on meds because of depression, and one or two people have said that meds are never good and that I could help myself if I really tried. The trouble is, I did try really hard to help myself. I done all the things in the book; meditation, CBT, counselling, social groups, keeping up hobbies, doing voluntary work, doing gentle exercise like walking, and keeping up my part-time job. Honest to God I tried all of those things, and I still kept getting bouts of depression and feeling like crap.

Depression is harder than you think to just ''snap out of it''. OK now that I'm on meds I can actually snap out of depression if I do get depressed, because it's what the meds help me to be able to do, which is making life easier for me and the people around me. But before I went on meds I just could not snap out of depression. It was just there and it was so hard to get rid of. People seem to think that just because it's not physical (like a stomachache or something) it means you can stop it if you tried, but to me depression it like a pain; it can be just as beyond your control as what a physical pain can be.

People who say dismissive, trivialising things like "Snap out of it" have obviously had an empathy bypass.
It's usually NT's who say it, in my experience. Somewhat ironic since they accuse ASD community of lacking empathy. Pots calling kettles black is alive and well..

Was basically told to put my big girl panties on and start acting like an adult and handle pro blems like an adult

As someone who has been diagnosed with depression in the past and have been on pills for it, I cannot relate. I still manage to do things to make myself happy and it makes me question if I truly had it or not. My depression has always been caused by the environment and once that issue is resolved, I am no longer depressed. That is the only way I can snap out of it. When I fell into bad depression when I was in my first relationship, I snapped out of it when he was away and I decided to break up with him because I realized how happy I was without him around. It was a huge weight off my shoulder. I was also depressed in my second relationship and when I first met my husband and then I snapped out of it when I got over my ex and liked how things were between my husband and I. I was also depressed back back in 2012 when my husband had hurt himself and was on sick leave and when he got better finally, I snapped out of it too and also felt weight off me again because I felt lighter. I didn't realize then I was depressed and I think that was why I was so burned out and couldn't handle adult life anymore and couldn't care for my son properly. It was because of my husband and it added stress and I don't handle stress well and it affects my functioning. I also had more anxiety. I don't think I have chemical depression and there is a difference between my depression and theirs. I also had some experience with depression this year during my pregnancy and I had no reason to be depressed,it just happened. Then it went away. I had that same experience last time with my other pregnancy. I assume it's hormones.

It irritates the living hell out of me when people tell me to snap out of being depressed, like it's something I can CHOOSE to do. People who have actually suffered from depression know that it's not something you can just choose to break out of. For this reason, whenever I'm feeling depressed, usually the only people I talk to about it are those who have experienced it themselves.

Sometimes I wish more people would suffer the way that I do, so that they would understand how I feel. Nothing is worse than being the one depressed guy amongst a swarm of happy, well-adjusted people.