29 Nov 2011, 5:39 pm
hanyo wrote:
When I was in school I don't remember them ever doing anything about my being bullied. I even had a school counselor in sixth grade tell me that the other kids treated me the way they did because of the way I acted. She didn't give any helpful advice and I didn't know how to act any other way than the way I did.
After sixth grade I never was in the same school more than a year. They kept switching me to new schools every year until I was 16 and quit.
After sixth grade I never was in the same school more than a year. They kept switching me to new schools every year until I was 16 and quit.
Sigh, sigh, sigh.
Yes, I too got that moronic line of "it's something you did to deserve/attract it" just like 99% of Aspies out there.
I know we're kind of dyslexic when it comes to "reading between the lines", so maybe what the speaker is really saying is "I don't want to get involved - fight your own battles" (the allusion to "fight your own battles" is they are telling you that only YOU can fix the problem that is attracting bullies.)
Doesn't make it right, though.
I often wonder if other marginalized groups like the gays had to deal with this crap too, at one point they were told they wouldn't get picked on if they stayed in the closet and didn't let it show. I've often used gays as an analogy for our struggle & plight. I'm straight with a wife and kid, but I still have an affinity for gays for this reason (got friends who are gay) because I can sympathize with what they put up with. The common denominator is, you can't help who you are, you don't choose to have whatever condition you have, and sooner or later it comes out.
