Why do NTs sometimes react angrily to people with AS?

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That's a good point Erich!

Mostly its just that AS & NT's don't communicate in the same manner so it creates conflicts and misunderstandings. Then some NT's are jerks, just like some AS are also jerks.

But just because someone is not AS does not mean they are normal. You got a lot of people out there called NT's who have other issues like BP, Schizo and other personality disorders and they have a lot of communication issues as well.

The world is full of negativity if you look. But it shouldn't be all there is: my new (usually quiet) friend taught me to conceive of that.

I think that I can remember the positive things more often these days then I have in the past. But this is how worries are defined: a fixation on negativity. There is always an outside cause to a problem. If there is none then its just the person who is unstable in their ability and rationality. Many people out there are just "cases".

However, there are stressors because of living with anxiety or a syndrome of some kind. But I learned that it helps to talk and be more mature most of the time because there are a bunch of flakes going around these days and especially on the internet, trying to get the best of others by inferiorating them.

In these times where there are certain demands / economic demands and that we lose touch with meaning and purpose in life, people lose in touch with rationality and, therefore, it contributes to their selfish egoistic impulses.

I've been angry with other AS people loads of times and I have lost paitence with AS people before and I am AS as I can't think of anyone at the moment I'm sure it would come to me.

At least you probably had a reason.

I had a cashier fly into a rage at me a couple of months ago because I asked her for an extra plastic bag. "You don't have to get so MAD about it," she wailed.

I'm like, Huh?

Well I read somewhere on the internet that living with someone with Aspergers is the same as "water torture". It is just a constant drip of annoyance. I can clearly see this with my behavior over the years. Even now that I know it, I can't stop saying annoying things that have no substance.

I don't think annoying things with no substance would have anything to do with AS per se...

I am probably frustrating for a variety of reasons :-/

Why do neurotypes get angry with me... why do I get angry with neurotypes... in my own personal experiences it works both ways... and often... annoyingly.

I had a boss not to long ago that liked to torment me. He'd give me the crap work, sabatoge work I had done, and loved to call me Rainman, and mumbleman. I eventually got fired, but went to the labor board getting him transfered to the worst shop, and demoted to the lowest position in the coorporation that they invented just for him. AS revenge sweet.

This is the quote from Dr. Kathy J. Marshack: Many describe living with an Aspie as “water torture.” It is the constant drip, drip, drip of small thoughtless behaviors that destroys the relationship. The lack of eye contact, the obsessive/compulsive behaviors, the adherence to rigid routines, the self absorption, the social anxiety, all lead to family members feeling like they just cannot connect with their Asperger family members. But it isn’t so much the unusual behaviors that make the connecting difficult, but the inconsistency. Never knowing what is coming next, makes a loving connection very difficult.

This destroys a relationship, it doesn't make random strangers angry.

Is there a situation you can give as an example? I can give you 200 different reasons why someone got angry or annoyed, but your best bet is to take a deep breath and ask why they ae being so hostile. You have nothing to lose.

Just a heads up, the common public is generally annoyed. They are stressed, always in a rush, and don't care much about anything but someone else getting out of their way.

NTs do get very uncomfortable around people that look or act strange (stranger than monkey gestures??), even if they can't put their finger on what the exact cause is. It's just their nature. I definitly had less patience when younger and got weirded out at the slightest things. Once I got older, I realized nothing is worth my aggrivation. And I have never been mean to anyone, and I rarely get angry (usually when someone lies to me I get mad. That's about it).