AmberEyes
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28 Jan 2009, 4:40 pm
That sounds a bit harsh
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Were you given prior notice?
What had you all done to deserve that?
*joking*
I've been in the paper before, but that was a genuine smile (I was playing around with gadgets!). I was told it was going to be in the paper so I didn't mind, I was having fun anyway, so I couldn't fake it.
28 Jan 2009, 4:56 pm
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28 Jan 2009, 9:36 pm
I've probably always been able to smile. If I wasn't depressed or panicky, I was often silly - and told to grow up more times than I can count. I stopped smiling for a long time because I though people took my smiling in different ways than I intended. Now, unless I'm genuinely happy, I smile to try to get through social situations. Smiling seems to help.
An early example of giggling after my Saturday-night bath, sister at right. Date, about 1967.
Z
29 Jan 2009, 8:33 am
Why - when we are not? Do you become a little neurotypical by making a fake smile?? Hmmm... I don't want to know what will make you very neurotypical then!
BTW sometimes it seems to me that it could be appropriate to tell NTs to try and be a little bit aspie.
Or how? (just kidding.)
And yes I can smile and do it often. In pictures too. But I don't expect that others need to be the same way. (Hey, wasn't that an NT-ish empathetic-like Theory of Mind thing?!
Just kidding again.)
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29 Jan 2009, 9:44 am
I'd have to be genuinely amused to do so, so from eight-ish onwards I haven't really grinned in a photo. Bar one day when I was definitely put off for life—it was a photo of the year at school in year six (all 13 of us) and I remembered something hilarious the second the photo went off, and the result was of me with mouth agape with laughter. It then appeared on the front cover of the local paper the next week.
29 Jan 2009, 11:02 am
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29 Jan 2009, 11:20 am
i reckon some of these non-smiling supposedly AS photos are just people who THINK they should adhere to the stereotypical view of AS - flat afffect blah blah blah, which leads one to ask - what is their frame of reference.
Well I agree with this to a certain extent because 'always' and 'everyone' never apply. I do feel that the reason I don't like to smile in pictures is because of my complete inability to act or 'fake' things that I don't really feel which I feel has something to do with my being on the spectrum (in retrospect because I didn't grow up knowing about HFA or AS like some people here). But jmo *shrug*
evil auntie here
yeah, but mith,,,you are excluded from the above comment.
disclaimer: mith is always excluded from any barbed comment i forthwith make on WP.
29 Jan 2009, 11:21 am
I am smiling, but not so much. The zig would fall out if gave my best smile 
29 Jan 2009, 11:23 am
yeah but you look cool and so that breaks yet anohter stereotype that we all have to look like geeks and dweebs. so you are excused too, mosez the man.......
29 Jan 2009, 11:46 am
yeah but you look cool and so that breaks yet anohter stereotype that we all have to look like geeks and dweebs. so you are excused too, mosez the man.......
Thank's millie, I struggled very hard to look cool on that picture. I'm usually not very relaxed when my picture is taken, especially not when I take it myself. I couldn't quite relax, so I lit a zig, felt very relaxed and shot the picture
29 Jan 2009, 11:47 am
Personally, I feel fake if I smile for a picture. About the only time I smile is if I'm laughing---then it's beyond a smile. Smiling is very awkward for me in posing for pictures. When I get my portraits taken for our school yearbooks (I am a teacher of the gifted), I tell them that I don't like to smile in the pictures after they tell me to smile. I don't care what others think of me. If I look like an Aspie, then so what...I am an Aspie and proud of it. 
29 Jan 2009, 12:01 pm
i reckon some of these non-smiling supposedly AS photos are just people who THINK they should adhere to the stereotypical view of AS - flat afffect blah blah blah, which leads one to ask - what is their frame of reference.
Well I agree with this to a certain extent because 'always' and 'everyone' never apply. I do feel that the reason I don't like to smile in pictures is because of my complete inability to act or 'fake' things that I don't really feel which I feel has something to do with my being on the spectrum (in retrospect because I didn't grow up knowing about HFA or AS like some people here). But jmo *shrug*
evil auntie here
yeah, but mith,,,you are excluded from the above comment.
disclaimer: mith is always excluded from any barbed comment i forthwith make on WP.
Lol!! Ok I'll remember that in the future haha.
You look lovely in your avatar, by the way Millie.
Optician_Of_Urza
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29 Jan 2009, 12:07 pm
Observe:
I like my non-smiling face better.
Nice pic!
Yeah, cute! actually I think you don't look so good in the unsmiling pic. You look angry and unhappy. I like the smiling pic, it brightens up your face.
I would say that the un-smiling one looks rather mysterious.
I think you look great when you smile. Genuinely happy. With a broad smile like that I am sure you could get some good results. You are like me when you frown. You are capable of looking much more broody and glum than some. Much morose. I am the same way, when I frown I look far more morose than some people. Ever notice how some people don't even look unhappy when they are scowling?
Both those pics look great but what really gets me is your profile pic. It's mesmerising.
29 Jan 2009, 12:15 pm
