Does anyone else have trouble following some of the threads?

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I mean, of course there is going to be a certain amount of things one misunderstands. But I swear every time I post, I wonder if I took something wrong, misinterpreted the actual intended meaning, etc. I also cannot keep up with a lot of them, when technical things are being thrown into the mix, I'm at a loss... always makes me feel kinda stupid, lol, which I mean, I know it's not the case because there is bound to be someone else reading it and thinking "huh?".

I wonder how many I leave thinking "huh? that had nothing to do with what I was talking about". At least I try to support or give input I guess, lol, however "off" I might be at times.

I was just curious as to how many others experience this in general on here.

Yep. Messageboards, real life, it's all confusing. I'm all the time not sure which way to take things people say. But it seems like other people don't know how to take the things i say a lot of the time either.. so, yeah. I think it's inevitable that in a board for autistic-spectrum people that everyone isn't going to follow what other people are saying all the time.

ah, thank you so much. I was starting to (and was for a long while tonight) feel very lonely in the world.

Yes, I imagined there should be others who don't follow it all as well, or how things are meant to be, but depression/lack of sleep began to set in, lol. I was starting to think, "Maybe I really am just that bad off to where it's like I'm hopping board a flight to idiotland, perfectly content to be doing so." Did that make sense? In other words, I was thinking that maybe my IQ difference with it being lower really does set me apart, even from people I can actually communicate with, and that I am just kind of starting to accept it really.

People always misinterpret things I say on here, even to the point of it being a verbal attack against me, and potential frends/partners avoid me because they believe the other person's misinterpretations.

I haven't had a verbal attack yet, but can imagine I would feel very uncomfortable if I had. I'm pretty sure I've scared people off from talking to me though. I can hardly sort my thoughts out and come across quite random in how I'm interpreting things... combine that with lack of explanation a lot of the time and poof, lol-no one returns messages.

You sound intelligent enough to me. I think there are just a lot of people here who have interests in some complex things like technology or a scientific field of study... And when they use language related to that certain thing it can lose those who don't share that interest. There's a lot of computer and sci-fi stuff that a lot of people here seem to be into that goes completely over my head.. But then i'm sure a lot of those people don't know anything about snakes, and i do. I'm sure you know a lot about some things that would confuse a few other people here too

lol, it is highly doubtful, but possible. I've never been one to learn everything about anything I'm doing... my interests switch very rapidly and are more often than not focused largely on trying to figure out how people operate in social situations. I have a lot of observing skills and can often bring a new perspective into the mix just from what I have observed, but as far as knowledge about much else... pffft, lol. But in a group this diverse, who knows right?

Specifically, I mentioned that I couldn't wait until I was married for sex, and people eventually assume that I am some sort of pervert.

doh! I can see I guess how people could interpret it to mean that... but that's a quick assumption to jump to. I had a friend who got married... well, I guess it was a year ago, and her husband was looking forward to it and I am sure he said something similar (I know he did, I just cannot remember exactly what it was that he said, so cannot quote it for you). But it wasn't because he just wanted sex, he loved her and wanted to share the emotional bond that goes along with it and all that jazz too.

The only problem that I have with following threads here is when my own lack of interest in a particular subject, makes it hard for me to keep reading, but I fully understand how you feel when you say, "But I swear every time I post, I wonder if I took something wrong, misinterpreted the actual intended meaning, etc. " I misinterpret people's intended meaning so often, so I probably over explain, and over simplify trying to make certain that others don't experience this with me.

And some things you have said here are wondering me whether you might also be INFP.

Last edited by willmark on 02 Sep 2009, 8:25 am, edited 1 time in total.

Yet there's nothing in between hippie and fundamentalist.

I am a wee bit confused as to what this pertains to, ironically enough in a thread about being confused about things people say, lol. Do you mean as far as sex goes? I embarrassingly have forgotten what fundamentalist means. Looked it up, but am having difficulty following some of these long winded explanations and variances.

INFP? I have seen tests that give personality types, but always forget what I actually am, lol.

Nevermind... looked it up and took the Jung-Meyers test, and oddly enough I am considered ISTJ, with I and J as my strongest. I'm not positive what that means, I read up on it, but don't know what the numbers mean so much.

Some people here obviously think that people reading the thread will read EVERY word they write, so they spill out a huge page-ful of verbosity.

I skip these and read only the shorter posts.
Really, folks, you're not Tolstoy.

Some people prefer to be given only the bottom line, the conclusion, and want to skip the process that went into getting it. I'm married to one of those types. Others tend to be verbose, and feel like they haven't given the whole picture if they haven't filled in all that lead up to their conclusion. My wife is married to a specimen of the latter type.