childish behavior

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Do people with AS behave like child? I sometimes think my behavior isn’t suitable for an adult person and I seem so younger than my age, I am 28 and seem 20 or less.

I read in a previous thread that people with AS tend to be about a third behind their peers in emotional maturity. It also seems to be true that people with AS tend to think of themselves as being or feeling immature compared to the people around them. I often feel like I'm just barely hanging on to the whole being an adult thing, and I'm over forty. So, no, you're not alone.

I am 34 and act significantly younger than the girls who hang around who are in their early 20's.
Argueably, I have been told I look younger than a lot of them too...esp..the ones who party a lot..

Yes, emotionally speaking I'm very immature, and I have reasons to believe this won't change. A label of "obsessive and immature personality" obtained via MMPI exempted me from military service (which used to be mandatory here)

This is a commonality.

I consider myself to be much more mature than my peers. I'm not sure how you'd define "emotional maturity", though.

Then again, when you're fourteen, it's quite a feat to be more immature than your peers.

I am 21 and I still act childish. I even still play with legos sometimes...

I am 21 and I still act childish. I even still play with legos sometimes...

QFT. I am in my second year of college, and some of the kids my age act like they are still sitting at the popular table in high school. I may be emotionally immature (I confess), at least I have my head on straight when it comes to behaving in an educational and professional environment.

Whats funny is we can be more mature than our peers but when it comes to social skills and interests and emotions, we are immature. I felt ahead of my peers in middle school and high school but I also felt behind. I also know there are mature teens out there who do stay in school, don't skip, don't drink and drive, don't do wild parties, they are very responsible, they save their money instead of spending it all on junk, they respect their parents and their rules, instead they might try and compromise with them than arguing and punching holes in walls or slamming doors and saying they hate them or even running away and staying at their friends. They might also admit they don't know "everything" so they know when to ask for help than trying to solve it themselves.

I've always felt like this: in some ways much older than other people of the same age, in others, much younger.

I think it's kind of like.. less complex emotions. So I don't know if that's the same as immaturity, but it has the same effect.

Ex: I got a cat and my room mate was mad. It took me a while to understand that she wasn't mad that there was now a cat in the room, but that she was mad because I hadn't consulted her, and she felt betrayed and like she couldn't trust me. So there were a lot more twists and turns involved in the source of her anger than would have been for me. I think I would have gone straight to "Your new cat annoys me, do something about it." and skipped the whole origin of the cat and the implications of her thoughts and actions.

Maybe that's not the best way to do things, but at least it keeps me out of drama pretty well.;;;;;

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I definitely think I act young for my age.

I've always been a bit of an old-soul in some ways (I usually am more comfortable in the company of people much older than myself, though now I'm getting towards middle-age I don't mind people of my age!), wise beyond my years, interested in history and antiques, etc. But at the same time, sometimes I can be quite immature, especially emotionally. I still go to my bedroom and sulk/cry if my husband does something to upset me (luckily he is the calmest person in the world!) lol. And I can be quite naïeve when it comes to understanding people and politics (obviously an Aspie thing). I also look a lot younger than I am, some people still mistake me for being not long out of high school (I'm 31). Also, I take and teach dance classes so I guess that seems immature.

For me, its kinda skewed in a way that it's hard to explain but here goes.....

When Im in class in college, Im quieter and more hard working and same goes for work.Im serious about my work and schooling.I am also more mature in a sense to politics and such.While classmates are on facebook, Im on sites like Free Dominion, Project Alberta, and various other political sites, or Im reading politcal science books for entertainment and something to do.

BUT...I do act and am immature at times...

I like looking in a mirror and making funny faces I still like watching cartoons on youtube that I used to watch as a kid, I still like hot wheels and remote control vehicles...sometimes they have really cool hummers at stores like Radio Shack.With hot wheels, its fun to make ramps on stairs and watch em go down fast.I laugh at things others wouldnt laugh at, or I do something thinking it would make others laugh, but then they think Im a ret*d.

There are times when I have to stop myself from doing something that would cause unwanted attention.One time at work, I was looking for something for a customer and found it...They didnt hear me when I hollered across the produce section...and since I was excited that I found the item, I felt like jumping up and down waving my arms up and down...but managed to not do so...otherwise people would laugh at me.I also get very fidgety after a long period of sitting down...3 hour real estate class is gonna be interesting this year...i was pretty fidgety today.I still pick my nose..when people are not looking of course.Then of course..trying not to "interrupt"..I have been working on that but found when I do wait, I either dont get to say what I need or I forget what I was going to say or ask.


I have a short temper and get mad easily and if it really sets me off, something is fixin to get broken.If something really hurts me such as bullying, rejection, or getting a bad mark on an assignment, I am sulky, depressed for days, and sometimes do cry.I could get a big cut on my hand or something or trip and fall and hit something really hard and not cry.

heck, I don't even 'feel' like I've 'grown up'