My situation is proof....

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One thing I've been noticing in the past few months...is that all these folks who either used to be my friend, or who I just haven't heard from in god knows how long suddenly want to chat with me again, and bury whatever hatchets or whatever; and it's all just out of nowhere, all at once.

Well, have I been doing anything different that I never was really doing up until recently?

I'd say so:

I've embraced my Autism, and have been focusing primarily on my career & being the best at what I do, not to mention tending to the love of my life.

Gee...could it be that I may be so good at it, that all of a sudden people are taking notice to it, and a lot of people from my past may now want back in?

Wasn't this possibility also mentioned in the 48 Laws of Power? Y'know...people wanting to be with other people when those other people have something one wants?

And y'know what I didn't do to make all this happen?

I didn't sell out who I am.

I didn't worry like crazy what others thought of me.

I didn't work my *ss off to improve my social skills so people would be more comfortable around me.

I didn't desperately wish to be NT so that I could be "normal", & more accepted; heh, it looks like people are giving me that acceptance whether or not it even means anything to me anymore!

think about that.

People like to be around those with confidence and don't whine all the time.

Congratulations to you sir. My problem is my oversensitivity keeps me from being around people for too long, especially the 18-22 year old crowd. I have no problem with the 30+ crowd.

I think I get what you're saying. I learned about AS, got dx'd, and suddenly I made so much more sense to myself. I reassessed what was important and stopped trying to socialize... a social network was always pushed as a VITAL part of a support system but I just stopped caring. I also let my family go and simply stopped pursuing their approval.

suddenly I'm a lot happier, and somehow without really focusing on it I've managed to build a small but reliable support system of people who I find it worthwhile to reciprocate favors with and who don't find me too inexplicable to deal with. I spend a lot more time by myself because after I thought about it, that's actually what I've always been most happy doing. I want to go back to school once I have my son's special needs situation settled and restart a career, but for now I'm really happy with the lower amount of pressure I put on myself because I'm no longer trying to achieve an unreachable goal (to be normal).

that is great to hear. I like what someone said about 'making sense to yourself' and about the 'half-assed version of normal. Those are the choices, lol. This should be pinned.