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First of all I want to excuse myself.
I didnt realized this was the only active aspie forum.. I made some internet fights with people here, been a bit delusional too.


But now the questions I have:

1: Any disorder that has some of the 'autism' symptoms, but they cure/vanish themself at adolescence?

2: Is this part of 'autism label'?: Somedays I feel better then other people, sometimes only moments. And then sometimes I feel useless and weaker. Sometimes I just don't go socialise, because I'm afraid to be rejected or to get in shame. But when there is a moment I feel almost like god and I love to socialise, but when I get one little small comment I don't like I can go back to the weak moment or I see the guy as an enemy.

3: I never had problems with reading people. I only have a very active defense system. I'm sometimes almost paranoid, no joke. Every comment I hear, I think its about me. I always look at everything in a social situation, but almost paranoid. Do you guys recognize this?

4: When somebody tells a joke about me in public. (when its not rude, but just to laugh) I always answer serious to this or sometimes rude. I know its a joke, but I'm afraid that the other people in the room don't know its a joke. Its almost a reflex. Do you guys reco this?

Greetings

Welcome back to WrongPlanet.

I am a girl, and I have this asperger's thing. You sound like a nice person. Sadly I can't really answer your questions, because I don't understand Asperger's myself - even though I was diagnosed at the age of 7, and I'm 20 now. But apparently as I get older, they are thinking I have more Dyspraxia than Asperger's, because my social skills are alright.
Ok, I'm not confident, but then again I come from quite a shy, polite family. And Ok, I find some social situations hard, but generally I am not bad at all. I always understand jokes. I work in a shop, and somebody came in the other day with a walking stick. After he paid, he went to walk out without his walking stick, so my collegue called out to him, ''you've forgotten your walking stick'' just before he went out the door. He turned round and got it, then said, ''I need to club people round the head with that!'' I knew he was just joking, and I laughed. But I could tell he was joking by the sound of his voice.
So that's another thing - voice. I could always tell how somebody is feeling and saying by their tone of voice. If somebody has a frown on their face and is complaining about something what bothers them to me, I can tell they are complaining by ''reading'' their voice and face, and I give them sympathy. But if somebody's smiling, got a cheerful tone in their voice, waving their arms about in frustration in a jokey way, I always laugh and know they are joking around, or being sarcastic. Always.
But doesn't aspies have difficulties understanding jokes, sarcasm, body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice? Because I don't, so I understand the doctors for wondering if I have Dyspraxia.
Also, I am a brilliant liar - but all this I have written is the truth. And I couldn't lie on the web to people because I need to tell people how I feel and everything. . . But if I wanted to go home from work early sometimes (if I really wanted to one day), I can make up excellent, convincing excuses, and the manager believes me. I tell the lie in the exact same voice as if I am telling the truth. I don't stutter, mumble, look away, fiddle with me hands - nothing. And sometimes I can concoct an excuse within 2 seconds, and they still believe me. And I wouldn't call them idiots - because my excuses really are convincing. Even sometimes I start to believe my own stories! So I am not an ''honest'' person all the time.
If somebody asked me, ''do I look all right in this new jacket?'' I will look at them, and say, ''no. . .turn sideways. . .'' they turn sideways, I would look again and say, ''no, it looks lovely on you. It suits you.'' Even if I didn't like the jacket myself, I wouldn't turn round to them and blurt out, ''no - I don't like it, so it won't look good on anyone!'' I would give a friendly, complimenting answer.
So - that just about wraps up my positive side of my social abilities. Everyone at work don't even know I have anything wrong, and if I told them they will probably look at me wide-eyed and say, ''have you?''
The only part of socialising I find difficult is mixing my loads of rowdy, loud, confident youngsters in a bar or loud party all night, because I get bored in a nightclub. I don't do partying. If I had to socialize, I'd rather go around shopping or go for coffee. But some NTs don't like clubbing either.
My social skills may not be that bad - BUT (a very big but) - I can't cope with routine change, loud sudden noises, making friends (I have got a few), I'm irritable, sometimes I loose my cool in the street, I often find it hard to get along with other peers, I get very anxious, I have obsessions. . . But how come my social skills aren't as bad as all the big books about Asperger's say? I'm very confused. So is it Dyspraxia or Asperger's?

I recognize your story.
I never had problems reading social clues too.
To be honest I even listen more to the tone of the voice then to the actual words sometimes.
Another part of Autism that I don't have is being detail minded. I more a general thinker, I don't like details.

I even saw myself cured with Ritalin. I don't know if its works for dyspraxia.
But concentration problems can give dyspraxia/aspie symtomps. (ADD/ADHD)

I take a very low dose of Ritalin and it works like wonders for me.
I could see sharp for the first time again, could control myself and be amused of more boring stuff. Before my medication I was a thrill seeker. I could not stand the boring life, I was made for more in this world. But with the medication I can finally control myself, concentrate and learn from books.
I'm addicted to Ritalin now, but I don't take more then needed. I don't use it for a high or something like that, I tried that in the beginning with some friends, but the crash was to dysphoric.
So I take it now constant and controlled.

Greets.