I'm not meaning to put anyone down, but I'm sure that many of you have come across the type in your time,
Drama Queens.
And the kind that I'm going to talk about today (and most likely the next few weeks) are Aspie Drama Queens, as athough there's drama queens in other groups, I'm going to stick to Aspie Drama Queens, as this is an Asperger's site.
Don't get me wtong I know that not all Aspie girls are like this, and I'm sure that in most cases of girls that come across that way they don't mean to do so. Anyway I'm going to tell you a story about a girl (who I'll call Miss N) with AS that I knew for a number of years at a care home that I used to live in until a few years back when I desided to move out into the real world.
Miss N, was an Aspie girl, who I must add so's that you understand the full story properly, fell in love with! She on the other hand did not do the same with me, now I'm not at all bitter about that part (although I was at time and for a short while afterwards) and I do understand that the problems in her life that she talked about were real ones, not just made up, but you'll soon see why they became an issue.....
It all begain when I first met her, to me she came across as a very sad and lonely but also very beutiful girl, of whom I fell in love with within a few days of knowing her (she moved into the same said care home.) As I wanted to make her feel welcome and not rush her in anyway I let her settle in before telling her my feelings, by that time she got a boyfriend (sadly not me, but they soon split up for reasons I did not pry into at the time as they were not of my consuern anyway.)
Then I begin to 'woo her' it was then that he started to talk more and ore about her issues, a lot of them were ones that were things that happened to her in the past mostly pror to her dignosis. Now to hear those kind of things coming from the girl that I had fallen in love with (at that time) was upsetting to say the least, also as I had seen a lot of action movies and read a lot of adventure stories I had a strong desire to jump in and save her from thr evil dragon!
As it had happen the main reason for her trumbes was her dad, the cheif one being that due to her issues her dad cast her out of the family home (at the time he did not know that she had AS and so just thought that she was behaving badly I will note that she was over 16 at the time so sadly I could not get the cops involed) I would sometimes meet her dad and one day (and if I remember rightly I did this more than once) I offerd (just so she's know) that I'd fix him (i.e. beat him up) for her!
Now as he was her dad she was upset!! !
I did not understand this at all from what I understood at the time (and remember this was quite a few years ago when I had just come out of my teens) I thought that if my dad did the kind of things to me that he had done to her I'd just kill him regardless! Also I reaconed that if I were her (with her being quite patite and with him being quite big and strong) I'd be delighted if someone went and give him a good hiding!! !!
Maybe she'd fall in love with me????
(One must be awere that at that time if you had AS you'd in many cases get away with this kind of thing as you could use it to say that you have dimsihed resopablty you can't do this now but you could back then, in some cases.)
This is only one case regarding Miss N, she'd have issues, suffer and thus (rightly) compaian about them and not let anyone help her
IN SPITE OF THE FACT THAT SHE'D ALWAYS FAIL DO SOLVE THEM HERSELF!! !! !! !! !!
In the end (after having many more such issues) she left the care home. However shortly before doing so she told everyone about this, BIG mistake Miss N BIG BIG mistacke! As it happened she was going to live in semi saptorted living (due to her deprssion issues) but I did not know this at the time! I thought that she was going right back into the kind of life that she had lived before (she had lived on her own for a time before getting her dignosis) and have the same kind of stuff that had happened to her once more!! !! !
So I desided that enotgh was enotgh m love for her had by now died out 100%! And knowing that she was downstairs (for I was up in my room at the time) I mached up to her and give her a peace of my mind!
(Don't worry at no point did it ever come to blows, as I did not want her to suffer just know how I felt.)
So seeing her do some art with the other girls (What is it with Aspie girls and drawing?) I went up to her spoke to her, until it then became a heated agument where I yelled, insuted her, (as she did not love me and nor did I anymore I desided to make her squerm) and she just stood asking me "Why all this hostily?, Don't you want me to be happy?" She was confused as Hell as to her it was competlly out of the blue and unexpeted. I must admit that for a while afterwards I regreted that I did not demand that she marry me (of which she'd have agreed to do so out of shear terror)
Anyway after a few weeks she was out of my life forever. Sometimes I look for her on the internet by typeing in her name on Google not out of guilt (as it was a long time ago anyway) or desire for revenge but just see how shes getting along. As it happens I think I found her and she's now working as a self empleyed (as far as I know) artest.
Anyway I feel happer now that I have shared this tale with you guys and gals. and I hope that I can be back soon.
Goodbye Till Next Time
02 Aug 2010, 5:48 am
