Aspie friends...

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I know just one friend with AS and where I am quite reclusive, have not met many other autistic people since leaving [special] schools. There is hardly anything organised [socially] locally where I live. This is the reason why [for me] a place like this is vital and I enjoy reading and learning about the way others cope. So I was just wondering if people knew of or had met many other Aspies in the offline world?

Almost all of my friends are not NT, and may or may not have aspergers. They are the best of friends. We can relate to each other in almost every way.

My Tier 1 friends are all spectral.

Not numerous - reclusive minorities used to social rejection can take a while to find one another.

Still, in time they do.

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This is the best thing about the Internet.
Find each other, then meet AFK.

I have one Aspie friend. He's the only person I've ever spoken to without fear or reservation. We accept each other for all of our tendencies to drive people crazy (more on his part than mine) or make people uncomfortable (more on my part than his) or our poor ability to communicate what it is we mean to say (on both our parts). It's nice.

I've been friends with a few aspies, and I've found that they were easier to get along with, than NTs. I didn't feel the need to prove anything to them.

This is what I have been thinking it would be like.

I have never met a fellow aspie in real life, that I'm aware of.

Most of my friends have aspie tendancies. It's been that way my whole life. The thing is though, none of us know how to be sociable so we don't see each other very often.

Most of my acquaintances are introvert or have depression/another mental issue. I only got two close friends, one of them is bipolar and gifted, the other is an introvert with some autistic characteristics however she seems quite normal to me. I know nobody with Autism in real life (or even learning disorders apart from people in my family), but I'm pretty sure most people here have a tendency to befriend strange people or introverts, even those (like me) who have no diagnosis of Autism or no diagnosis at all for anything.

I had one aspie friend with it in real life and he was a bully and had ODD. Then I knew lot of others but they're all acquaintances. In fact I am attending a Halloween party one of my aspie groups is having at one of their homes. She's aspie too she suspects and her son has a severe case of it.

I used to go to another group that was a fetish group and well they were all quirky. One of them had ADD. I haven't gone to one now in months because something happened and I don't know the details. I heard a rumor recently about it on Daily Diapers through PM someone sent me and I don't even know if it's true or not but that person heard about it too and told me about it. But I don't go to that forum much either because I don't like their attitudes and someone there pisses me off so I have him on ignore. Well the owner of it decided to retire from it and wanted someone else to take over and no one did so it folded I think.

I don't know any Aspies in real life, except that I think some of the people I know have some AS tendencies. But I'm the same way myself, to a certain extent. I only have some Aspie traits (I'm diagnosed on the spectrum), so I always feel like a bit of an interloper even here on WP. I don't know how well I would do with Aspies in real life. I have some of the same difficulties, and the ones I have have caused me a lot of trouble, but I don't feel that I entirely fit in with other people with AS. I'm not sure that I fit in anywhere.

I find that dealing with people who don't have AS may be a bit easier, since at least they are capable of keeping up their end of the conversation. What does a conversation between two Aspies look like? With me it would be two people staring at their shoes, if the other person is as bad at conversing as I am.

It depends on the aspie. It can be NTish because they are all talking and socializing or when you are talking to one aspie, it can be talking at each other and filled with interruptions because you two keep interrupting or what about when you are doing all the talking and the other aspie isn't saying anything. I have seen eye contact in between aspies but that doesn't mean that is how they interact with other people, perhaps they are doing eye contact because they are both aspies so they feel more comfortable looking at their faces. And how do I know it isn't inappropriate eye contact they are doing?