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neptunekh
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04 Jun 2016, 12:54 am

Is it bad that I won't accept my sister's boyfriend until she is engaged. She has been with him for 2 years, and they live together. They live together and he should marry her otherwise I won't accept him.



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04 Jun 2016, 2:11 am

Why is it important for you that your sister marry her boyfriend? What makes it hard to accept him otherwise?


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04 Jun 2016, 2:34 am

I got 2 nephews and a niece that I am fond of beacause thier relationships. I am also fond of thier partners.


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04 Jun 2016, 3:08 pm

When I was 14 I was jealous that my FRIEND was in a relationship but that jealousy died pretty quickly after the age of 16. I was only jealous because the guy was cute and he said he liked me first.

My sibling could be married and I would never be jealous of my sisters relationships.

In fact I'm very very happy being single.


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04 Jun 2016, 3:22 pm

I think there's sort of a "moral" component to this. Maybe she doesn't believe in people being in a physical relationship unless they are engaged or married.



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05 Jun 2016, 12:00 pm

to be honest im just kinda jelous that my sister can deal with the world, she seems to have a way easier time making friends, she seems to be able to do all of that social stuff without any problem AND constantly undermine me when i mess up ( which i do, a lot). although she has never dated, i assume she will be the first to actually do that, which i guess i would be jelous of for a while.

i guess its a sort of heightened sibling rivalry


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05 Jun 2016, 12:08 pm

Doesn't really bother me because its not my problem, besides I'm not at the point where I feel like I'm ready to get a girlfriend yet.


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05 Jun 2016, 12:13 pm

<--- Has four brothers and one sister, all married (or once married) and all have kids. What happened to Robin? Well, they call it Asperger's Syndrome.


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05 Jun 2016, 11:51 pm

It doesn't bother me that my sister is married with a child and I'm not. I don't have what it takes to have a traditional family. I'd have to wear a mask and I'm done with masks.


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06 Jun 2016, 1:16 am

Not really, but it does bother me that cousins and friends have a significant other, and I don't. I don't really resent it, so much as I feel sad that I don't have somebody. Maybe I am jealous, because I don't like the thought that cousins achieve something before I do, even though I am older than them. But that is not always my feeling.