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Hi

My son age 12 has been diagnosed with ADHD for a number of years but I always felt that something else was not right today he was diagnosed with Aspergers. As he is becoming a teenager I was hoping for some tips that might help to make things easier for us all its been a battle to get here his teachers insist that all is ok and he is doing well at school he was coming home everyday so upset but no one only me and his dad were listening and I am not sure where I am at?

Thanks

Annmaria

Welcome to WrongPlanet.

I hope you find the answers you are looking for,

There is a parents forum here and I'm sure they would have lots to offer.

My first impression is that he is running on empty by the time he gets home and is ready to blow up or melt down. Maybe he needs something that will let him blow off some steam when he first gets home.

I have read in a book on AS that some children with this condition manage to do all right in school and the teachers hardly notice any difference in their social behaviour. When they return home though, they are mentally exhausted from the effort it took to interact with all the other children and the teachers. So once they feel they can relax among their family they let down their guards and the condition becomes more obvious. It might in fact be that your son does not look very special to his teachers.

If this is really the case with your son it might be helpful for him if he gets some time to himself when he comes home from school. Let him spend some time with his special interest or other things he enjoys doing before he has to do his homework or before he has to face more interactions with non-family-members. This will help him relax and get some mental energy back. Afterwards he will be better able to cope with the rest of the day and things will get more relaxed for all of you.

Thanks for your replies

Fluffydog you are right he has started secondary school this year and I have noticed that because he has a long bus ride home that he is not as upset as he used to be when I collected him from primary school he would get into the car and all hell would break loose. He stressed out so much in school I have been into the new school before this diagnoses and they keep telling me he is doing fine and they have no concerns and they are looking at me like I am from the wrong planet its so fustrating. I cannot imagine there reaction or response when I give them the report with him been diagnosed with Aspergers.