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Belushi87
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24 Jan 2012, 3:47 am

Having a support worker is my parents idea. I dont want one. I dont like the idea of having one, but its to late to say anything because "we"re" interviewing a couple people this week.

I dont want one because I dont want to relay on this person for help for the rest of my life. I dont want to get married and have kids and still have a support worker to come in and help me with day to day stuff. it annoys the hell out of me. It was my parents idea to go thru this basis.

Plus I think its worst of time. I want to live my life my way and its not my fault that I didnt move out when I was 18. it takes time.



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24 Jan 2012, 3:58 am

well whether you like it or not you will probably need support. Would you rather enlist a roommate/friend or even worse love interest into your life to accept co responsibility of your social and organizational support? But imagine what will happen to you if/when they decide to move on or you want to but you don't know how or don't feel like you CAN....or they get you trapped and prey on your inability to change.knowinbly .....or to a lesser degree they change expectations mid relationship or just aren't knowledgeable of your disabilities or how to handle them..further, do you really want your love intereests or friends to be THAT knowledgeable of your diability to help you with it in the first place (or if they're not very honorable, to trap/prey on you, etc)? bc my experience indicates these circumstances aren't so good..... or have your parents pay for a support worker and then not have to depend on friends/etc to help... I dunno, it's a tough call but I can definitely see their perspective!


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24 Jan 2012, 4:26 am

a support worker is a GOOD thing! They can help you get moved out on your own faster than you could by yourself. Working with them gives you more options. They have more resources to access than you can on your own. They know how to help people like you live independently.

You have two choices; refuse the help and be stuck at your parents house longer or accept the help and get out of there sooner.


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24 Jan 2012, 8:14 am

I hate the idea of change , I hate my support worker.


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24 Jan 2012, 10:01 am

I'm glad that I didn't have a support worker pushed on me.


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24 Jan 2012, 10:20 am

Do you actually need one? If not then I would think they would eventually stop coming when they realized you didn't need them.



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24 Jan 2012, 10:58 am

i wish i had a support worker !


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26 Jan 2012, 12:18 am

its one of those situations where it feels like just because i'm not moving along like my peers means that i need the support. yea, its going to take a little longer for me to get a job and figure out what i want to do and move out , doesnt mean i need someone to come in on a daily basis to check up on me, i'm at my own pace.