Autistic Body Language

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I'm having a problem as a girl with HFA dealing with a guy whose an aspie at college. I actually can't figure out why he's hanging around me a lot & especially trying to alone certain mornings . How can an autistic person read another autistic person's body language ?

By definition, we suck at this.

But we are good at being blunt. Tell him straight out you aren't interested. Since he is aspie, he may appreciate the blunt honesty.

I don't think he's interested in me, but I've got no idea. WEEEEE

LOL. Well are you interested in him?

Does he know you are HFA? Does he know that you know he is AS?

(sounds very theory of mind-ish, huh?)

Definitely NOT interested

And yes, he knows I'm HFA

Maybe he really likes you or just wants to have a friend. Although the aloneness suggests he is interested in you.

If you're not interested, he needs to know so he can move on and find someone who is interested in him.

I know he wants friends b/c he also hangs around my other friends whenever possible.

Well if he is AS and you are HFA it's a good bet that you are both misreading things at least a little bit. It goes with the territory. Come right out and ask his intentions. Maybe a good platonic friendship will happen. Nothing wrong with that.

Part of the problem is I'm a magnet for people who turn out to be unstable (will throw fits or just generally overreact). So in order to cope w/ this I've developed a bad habit of calling close friends to hang out w/ me or attempt to "translate" others behavior .