"I know, I could tell by his eyes"

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The girl im dating told her father i had aspergers syndrome. He said "I know, I could tell by his eyes." It's strange I haven't heard of anything like that before. I mean eye contact yea but I have learned eye contact so that's out of the question. But how can you tell if someone has a form of autism from looking at their eyes?

He might have noticed a lack of sincere emotion? Which isn't to say you weren't feeling it, I mean in the way that most of us have to learn to form expressions.

I have doubts that he really could tell - certainly if he could that would be a remarkable skill and clinical psychologists the world over would suddenly become irrelevant, haha. It's more likely he saw something odd about you, and when she said that it "clicked" for him and made sense of what he thought.

Yeah, people who read others like fortune tellers and psychics can find us a bit challenging. Like our faces don't speak the same body language as theirs unless we've made a lot of effort to learn theirs. So they can see something off when comments that make others have some micro reaction aren't there in us. Usually they mistake it for extreme trauma since that's the closest to us most of them will see in an NT. It does mean you can get some really amusing 'readings' from them.

You can tell by his eyes.



I always though Craig 'looked' autistic. And he was diagnosed before I even knew what Asperger's was.

Something I've been told is that even when I make eye contact with people, it is noticeable that I would rather look somewhere else. I don't know how people can tell. Perhaps my eyes are not communicating some kind of emotion that people expect them to be communicating.

I am actually pretty good at "reading eyes" It is hard to explain but I can tell alot about a person by looking into their eyes and most of the time I am usually correct. Aspie eyes usually look like they are thinking and distant ...sometimes a permanant perplexed look, other times a flat expression. I have been told that my eyes are "deep" I guess that is because I am usually thinking too much.
The eyes are the mirror of one's mind. I dont know how I have so many aspie traits but managed to be able to read faces and eyes better than some nt's, but I never fit neatly in any category.

Anyway, I hope that helps


Jojo

He might mean that he can tell because you didn't make eye contact. Most NTs are completely comfortable looking someone in the eye, and they also instinctively know when to break it so they don't seem to be staring. My therapist said her first clue with me was that I never made eye contact; my eyes roamed around the room during our sessions. I think sometimes people who know about Autism/AS guess that we have it because of the way we avoid eye contact, or if we do make it, don't break it off at the right time and wind up staring!

What I am surprised by much more is that he knew what AS is at all - here where I live, almost no one knows this.

Its called Aspie Eyes and I ran across a YouTube video about it one time (Google Aspie Eyes and you will find it somewhere). Aspie's may be able to compensate sometimes, but not all of the time and will often either avoid eye contact and/or will stare blankly out into space when deep into thought. I thought I did not avoid eye contact, but once I began thinking about it realized that I often did so and definitely do stare out into space at times. With my eye contact avoidance, what I most often do is to let my eyes dance around another person's eyes erratically without ever settling on a firm look at them.

Perhaps he knew from lack of eye contact?