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30 May 2011, 2:05 pm

DO you think you can come across to others as conceited adn arrogant due to aspergers

In my opinion having little empathy or thoughts ofr others, saying literally waht you think, being a loner, seeming to enjoy only your own company. Often just not tlaking to people.

And when you do talk can talk in a manner kinda like you dont give a crap.

I dunno hard for em to explain but you understand?



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30 May 2011, 2:08 pm

We can be misinterpreted in many ways, this being one of them.


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30 May 2011, 2:21 pm

aspardon wrote:
DO you think you can come across to others as conceited adn arrogant due to aspergers

In my opinion having little empathy or thoughts ofr others, saying literally waht you think, being a loner, seeming to enjoy only your own company. Often just not tlaking to people.

And when you do talk can talk in a manner kinda like you dont give a crap.

I dunno hard for em to explain but you understand?


Yes. Definitely.



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30 May 2011, 2:30 pm

I deserve an oscar for coming across ...



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30 May 2011, 2:46 pm

aspardon wrote:
DO you think you can come across to others as conceited adn arrogant due to aspergers


Far, far too often.



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30 May 2011, 2:56 pm

Maje wrote:
I deserve an oscar for coming across ...


I feel the whole aspect of socialising is an act.

The moment I leave my house I am robert de niro, Matt Damon etc...who I wanna be.

Its all an act a complet act.

I am the biggest unpaid actor in the world. I have to act everyday and get no recgniton for my work and its pretty good I almost pull off acting like a real human being. I have fooled so many people.

SurelY I deserve an oscar



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30 May 2011, 3:20 pm

It would probably come off as insulting to some, but because of my personality and appearance I tend to be misconstrued as Jewish as of late. Common traits people find me to have are jerk/rich/smart/arrogant.

This also doubles into gay for some. But mostly it just means people are afraid of me.



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30 May 2011, 3:29 pm

I've never come across as being that way.


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30 May 2011, 3:52 pm

aspardon wrote:
Maje wrote:
I deserve an oscar for coming across ...


I feel the whole aspect of socialising is an act.

The moment I leave my house I am robert de niro, Matt Damon etc...who I wanna be.

Its all an act a complet act.

I am the biggest unpaid actor in the world. I have to act everyday and get no recgniton for my work and its pretty good I almost pull off acting like a real human being. I have fooled so many people.

SurelY I deserve an oscar


lol
I know how not to come across as arrogant or whatever else, (acting like a human being) but its annoyingly wasting my time.



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30 May 2011, 4:24 pm

aspardon wrote:
DO you think you can come across to others as conceited adn arrogant due to aspergers

In my opinion having little empathy or thoughts ofr others, saying literally waht you think, being a loner, seeming to enjoy only your own company. Often just not tlaking to people.

And when you do talk can talk in a manner kinda like you dont give a crap.

I dunno hard for em to explain but you understand?


Do you come across as unneccessarily guilt inducing? We are DIFFERENT!!

Parisians come across as conceited and arrogant

Aucklanders come across as conceited and arrogant

Sydneysiders come across as conceited and arrogant

New Yorkers come across as conceited and arrogant

Autism Speaks comes across as conceited and arrogant

Spock comes across as conceited and arrogant




Inducing guilt unfairly in those with social difficulties, as expressed here,

is conceited and arrogant :arrow:



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30 May 2011, 4:26 pm

My mom has told me several times that I come across as snobby, presumably because I don't talk much.



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30 May 2011, 4:28 pm

Maybe arrogant. Conceited? I am not sure. I don't worry about what others think of me like if they think I think I am better than anyone just because I am always alone and don't talk much.



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30 May 2011, 6:51 pm

Is it because we have big heads? :roll:



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30 May 2011, 7:00 pm

Surfman wrote:
aspardon wrote:
DO you think you can come across to others as conceited adn arrogant due to aspergers

In my opinion having little empathy or thoughts ofr others, saying literally waht you think, being a loner, seeming to enjoy only your own company. Often just not tlaking to people.

And when you do talk can talk in a manner kinda like you dont give a crap.

I dunno hard for em to explain but you understand?


Inducing guilt unfairly in those with social difficulties, as expressed here,

is conceited and arrogant :arrow:

I think the OP had a valid enough point. I don't think they meant to induce guilt so much as to raise the question. I can certainly come across as conceited and arrogant. Others have told me as much for many years now. And a whole lot of good it has done me considering it merely a difference that everyone else just needs to accept.
If I want to even vaguely get along with anyone (which is still a goal of mine, even with my social deficits and dislike of people in general), then I will need to attempt to get over the arrogance and conceit that I sometimes radiate.


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30 May 2011, 8:41 pm

Whilst I will not deny being arrogant (need the confidence to be honest) people often see much higher levels of arrogance than is actually there.


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30 May 2011, 8:43 pm

Arrogant?

Conceited?

MOI?! !

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