Maybe going to see a counselor...what should we talk about?

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My mom is proposing that I can go to a counselor before I go to college.
I have been wanting to talk to one for a while.
In fact, this counselor specializes in autism and aspergers.
However, now that it's come...I don't know what I want to get from it.

Off the top of my head, I have problems with:
*People singing when I am trying to concentrate
*People being noisy when I sleep, including snorers [and I am sharing a room with someone, and a kitchen with others]
*Insomnia myself
*Food issues (though they can't fix that)
*Organizational issues
*Extremism issues
*Self-focus issues
*Time-management issues
*Sensory issues

I go to college in 7 weeks, and my mom wants specific goals to help me with that....anybody have any experience here? Or any input at all?.....Thanks!

In my personal experience, my previous counselor did nothing for me. As I put it, she was "someone to talk to" and that's it. I hope your counselor is better than mine haha

Since "your mom" wants you to go, ASK HER. I mean I am sure she has something in mind, or else she won't send you there to begin with. If your mom has topic A in mind and you sit down and think up topic B, you won't make your mom happy anyway. So the only logical thing to do is to ask her what "topic A" is.

On a different note, why should you blindly listen to your mom anyway: you are not a child any more. If you actually "wanted" to go yourself, you wouldn't have to ask US what to bring up; you would have already had an idea. That, plus you would have already gone to the councellor long before your mom brought it up. So it seems like you are blindly listening to your mom.

Do you have ADD? In my experience my biggest problem was motivating myself to study when needed. Also I can't sit still and study for more than 20 minutes without getting distracted.

Since you say you're all or nothing person -- I faced a problem with parts of my course that didn't appeal to me. I underwent a lot of stress to keep myself upto mark on those parts of the course. You should find out what the best way to minimize stress is when you have to do modules that don't appeal to you.

Organization - executive dysfunction problems? I found it hard to organize my work schedules as I often got stuck with minor details and striving for perfection stressed me out.

Now I think your diet is unhealthy as it's not giving you sufficient nutrients. I suggest you discuss what the best diet is for you with your counsellor. You need to be in the best of your health to study well in school. Trust me my aspergers already burns me out when the schoolwork gets busy and poor diet only aggravate my AS symptoms.

Also I suggest you socialize as much as possible and attend study groups to decrease your work load. This was a problem of mine -- trying to do everything by myself because I didn't trust others to know my methods.

If you need anything else PM me

See the councillor if and when you are ready.

When college starts you will probably have a whole new set of issues to talk about

Vocalising and discussing things is important. It gives them a more powerful discernment than just keeping them in your head

Good luck, I'm a snorer but would also have doubts over shared space with strangers.