Update to earlier thread/ another thing

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Hey, it Chad again, as you my or may not remember, i posted a thread about 10 weeks ago with an experience with a co-worker,
date(sic), concert, kiss. I have now been informed by another co-worker that in asking for the second date at the end of the first that i was "pressuring" her. mmmkay, why did she not tell me? i am bruttally honest with nearly everything, women included.

I am doomed.

Now. as a cashier in a grocery i get a chance to talk with my bagger who last week i was in a conversation about by inability to find a date. She advised me that if i were not so uptight i might have better luck. I am uptight around girls because they have been the source of much pain and frustration over the years, (i am not a sexist pig). I told her that if i dont try looking, i just slip under the radar and never get noticed, but if i try at all, i am told i try too hard. WTF? She is going out with someone already.

It is as if every girl on the face of the earth is wearing a t-shirt that in bold red letters reads NOT FOR YOU---GET LOST.

Tell me.. where is the line to get a girlfriend, and WHY DOEST EVERONE CUT INFRONT OF ME DAMMIT?!?!?!?!?

I think it's probably best to aim for just being friends, and then the relationship will move on from there if there is a basis for it to do so. It obviously helps to be able to make new friends, which makes it extra challenging for some of us

Hey Chad, I see your from Bangor. I live in Waterville.

I think it's hard for us to for deep relationships with NTs. I don't think that means we give up on them, but I think it helps to look in places where we meet people with similar interests and similar eccentricities. If you can meet a full on aspie, even better. They will understand you better I think.

Actually women dont start dating their friends till after they turn 30 and get desperate.

If you want a girlfriend before that you have to be a jerk that acts like they dont care about her dont need her and arent interested.

She'll take it as a challenge and want to try to "change" you and your good.

Its sad its irrational but its the way NT women work.