As a special education teacher I know a lot of high school students and young adults have been taught and understand what self-advocacy is but many feel pressured not to state their wants or needs because they want to "fit in". I was talking to my niece, who is on the autism spectrum, and she told me this is exactly why she doesn't always tell peers what she needs. She has learned how to express her wants/needs but she is anxious about other people's responses (as her wants/needs are usually much different from the average young adult). How can I help my students (and my niece) self-advocate without feeling embarrassed or ashamed about speaking up about their wants/needs? Is their anything your teachers or parents did that gave you confidence to speak up about your wants/needs?