Does ''put on'' body language irritate you?

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I kind of hate it when people act cool all the time, always giving off that ''cool'' body language all the time, and more often than not I can tell people are really trying hard to always be cool, and half the time it isn't natural. It sometimes drives me insane, in a funny sort of way. Like a couple of years ago at a fairground, I saw a young girl standing (probably waiting for some friends to finish being on a ride), and she kept shifting her feet about, putting one foot flat on the ground and gently tapping her ankle with the other foot, and then swapping feet and I just know that cool expression she was trying to give off, and it annoyed me. I felt like marching upto her and yelling, ''just stand up properly and stop trying to act cool, you smarmy twat!'' It's really annoying. Also, when people get on the bus they irritate me, because when they get to the seat they want, they kind of walk a step or two past it, then stop dead and kind of swerve themselves into the seat, then rock forwards a couple of times (I don't know why they do that), and then look around at other people. And there is also a ''certain way'' you have to hold your shopping basket in supermarekts. Also women at bus stops always start fiddling around for something in their bags whenever you join them waiting at the bus stop, as though they know they got to do something because for some reason standing still is not the right body language (although I was told to keep my hands by my sides and stand still). They don't realise that sometimes they look shifty (men do put on body language in a less irritating way, and just seem that much more relaxed).




Does common body language piss anyone else off?

There is a stage in life where people can't be arsed to keep up this charade much longer, and that's the elderly.

Yeah I know what you mean, it is annoying. I think people are insecure and they do it because they think someone is watching them. But I don't like body language at all. I hate it when people put hands on hips when they wait for something. I don't like seeing two people talking and being expressive with their hands or arms or both and messing with their hair.

People try to look cool but the only time anyone pulls it off is when they don't try.

I don't like anything that's put on for the sake of cool. But one of the cutest things I've ever seen was a group of kids crossing the street. They were doing that slow insolent keep on truckin' walk. The older ones had it down pat but the youngest, a little girl, couldn't get it down right. She kept looking over to the other kids to see how to do it .

I have never noticed so no. I have seen people move to an empty seat on the bus when they open up because people do not want to sit right next to each other. So for a while I wondered if that was the social rule, never sit next to a person on the bus unless there are no empty seats with no one sitting right by them. Then when more seats open up, move to an empty seat with no one sitting by them. But I asked an NT about it on here and she said that isn't the case and it's more to do with personal space. Okay so all those people like not having anyone next to them and they put up with it when the bus is crowded. I don't think they are doing that to be cool.

I know this girl, the sister of my EX-bestfriend actually (he was a friend until his girlfriend and now wife decided she didn't like me) who is always over the top ecstatic to see me, I know it is an act and it irritates the hell out of me...

My brother is always strutting around with his big muscles even though at heart he is a coward who puts people down to bolster his own miserable ego...

My other brother is not so bad I guess, but he does tend to beat you over the head with mathematics he just learnt and then when you answer a question of his he argues with you all day...

And my youngest brother is a spoilt brat who got everything and therefore thinks the universe revolves around him though I know for a fact he got a voicemail off Copernicus the other week...

I think everyone tries to be cool at some point, and is it really any different to us trying to fit in?

I think the main problem is no one can ever be cool, since it is not a static state so everyone is constantly trying too hard

If I am sitting and become comfortable I am not going to move even if empty seats become available....sorry

Also, when I am looking for a stall in a restroom I just go to the cleanest one.

This is kind of funny. I shift with my feet when I'm nervous and lean against walls to calm down. I shuffle through my bag because I always forget I took my phone and purse. And do it again because I forgot again.

As for bus seat I usually get the pensioner seat. I'm autistic, currently fighting off a panic attack and tears. I'm plenty disabled. If I swerve it's because I think 'oh, I suppose that eat might be suitable enough.'

I never notice these 'cool' behaviours in other people.

I've rarely seen this, so that probably means I miss a lot of body language.

Yup, main reason I dislike broadway/plays, most shows on ABC and the like. Car salesmen... ..

Mildly funny story. Back when the first x-files movie came out they had this thing were if you went to this one auto display lot and test drove the type of car that was in the movie they would give you two free movie tickets. Well I did just that, drove to the lot walked up to the 'vultures' as I like to call them. One approached me all false I calmly cut him off. "I'm here for tickets to see the X-Files movie, I drive a toyota, I love toyota and I'm not gonna buy a car." He said to the effect "Oh don't you want to test drive the car from the movie?" *enter big, shiny, false grin and grand pose* I replied; "Is it the actual car that was in the movie?" Bright white smile replied "Uh, well, no". "Then I'll not waste your time and just take the tickets." Needless to say he then gave me a genuine smile and excused himself to return with said tickets. I thanked him and left. I was rather proud to find the 'real' man under the facade. Little did he know that I was closer to the real car months before during filming anyway. I was on a night drive up the local mountains, as I often do, and came across them filming the train/corn field/chase scene. They had stopped traffic as Duchovny drove the car out the dirt road and used the paved mountain road to turn around and go back. They were less than twenty feet from me. Needless to say my own body language was jumping up and down in my seat at the time..