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Hello guys! I'm sorry if this is on the wrong section, but this seems to be the one that's more populated and I'm aching for some answers.

I'm trying to figure out wether or not I have Autism of some sort or if this might be another thing. Here goes:

I'm a 17 year old boy, soon to be 18. Throughout my life, I had several difficulties through which I have fought alongside my parents. However, I have been connecting some dots and realised that my parents might ( or might not ) be hiding something from me. I have never asked them if I have some sort of social impairment, but I came to acknowledge through some past conversations with my mother that I have some sort of difficulty expressing my feelings and whatnot. Basically, I have ( and I feel that I do ) a certain difficulty talking to people and explaining things to them. I'm told that I ''walk miles and miles to achieve a certain point'', to make myself clear. One thing to note though - My mother says that this said difficulty talking and expressing feelings is due to my dislexya ( I hope I wrote that right ).

Now, here comes the ''resumee'':

My mother had a tough time delivering me. During confinement, the nurses took a long time to get to my mother, and I almost died in the process ( along with my mother ). A few months after confinement, I was submitted to some tests that allowed my mother to know if I got brain damage or any other damage of some sort. I did. I had a very bad case of strabism ( crossed-eyes ) and a heart condition, along with some respiratory problems - Fortunately, I have been sucessful in fighting these conditions, and I'm considered a healthy person to this day and age.

I also suffered from dislexya, and I was followed by a Psychologist during the time I struggled the most. Now, this is where I start having my doubts. I really doubt that several trips to a Psychology unit is only due to dislexya.

The rest of my childhood is a blur. I don't remember much - just some bits of my most fun and painful moments. To this day, I'm picked on due to my difficulty talking - I often say what you might call crap since I'm unaware of what I say. I'm naive in my words, and I don't say things with the purpose of hurting or sounding like a moron or [insert bad names here]. I'm very sensible to high sounds ( the bark of a dog, the sound of a bike ), I get distracted easily, I find it hard to concentrate, I'm very clumsy ( I walk funny sometimes and I don't feel a general control of my body ). I either go out with people I know very well or not at all. I dislike going to places I don't know well, I'm god-awful at remembering cellphone numbers ( and other random things, although I'm exceptional at remembering my responsibilities ) and well... even writting this post took me long, so you might find me a bit slow. I don't usually get jokes, so I'm unaware of when those said jokes are directed to me, I hate conflicts ( I don't have much to say back and find it hard to defend myself ) and much, much more. I don't remember any more up until this point, but I might add more facts later.

Also, I made a few tests I found on the Internet and all of those acused me of being somewhat autistic ( on one of those I was 32 out of 40, with 34 being autistic, and 146 out of 200, being certainly autistic, only having a few points of ''neurotypicalism'' ).

I had a lot of trouble writting this post. I took about 1 hour and a half to write this little thing.

I'm trying to find out wheter or not I am autistic so that I stop asking myself as to why I behave the way I do. I just want answers.

Cheers.

Please, get back to me as soon as possible.

If you go to the info part of this website, you can find a lot of articles that can give you more information. I wish you well.

Thank you Lelia!

I did already. However, I wanted your opinions.

There is much I'm ''forgetting'' about though. I find socializing boring since I always have to be the one talking ( and since people only want to talk smack about others ).

I don't feel empathy with people ( but this can be due to the fact that I don't relate with some of them ).

There's a lot of things going through my mind right now.

What you describe is not just dyslexia. I have a friend with dyslexia, and I've read a good bit about it.

And I agree, several visits to a psychologist because you were found to have dyslexia seems a bit odd.

I think perhaps the simplest thing to do, if you wonder if your parents are hiding something from you, is to just ask them. Of course, if you think they would continue to hide it, then that won't work, but it is the first thought that jumps into my mind.

@TheWanderer

What would you say that ''this'' is ?

The thing is, whenever I talk about my parents about any disorder whatsoever ( and many have been diagnosed, to the disbelief of my parents ), they start saying I'm not any of those things and tell me to stop talking about it or to stop thinking about it.

I don't believe that a few months of Psychologist are used to treat dislexya ( hell, are they even responsible for that ? I always had this idea that Psychologist's only function were to explain as to why people behaved like they did ). I believe there is some motive behind all this.

I might have not pointed this out, but, whenever I ask my mother if I have any disability whatsoever ( a mental one or social one ) she oftenly mentions the fact that doctors and Psychologists alike found me to have an ''above average IQ''. I always feel she is trying not to make me feel bad about myself. What she doesn't realize is that I do feel bad ... when she tries to hide things from me.

I only want to be sure that I have this things so I can be medicated and adjust my life accordingly. I want to know why I am the way I am ( if it is just me or a ''disease'' ) and why I am so un-sociable.

One more thing that I forgot to mention!

My mother, a few years back, suggested to me that I could sign up for some ''special classes'' ... She said I would have easier exams and that teachers would spend more time focusing on my strenghts and weaknesses, so that I have a better performance at school.

I said no by the way. By the time she proposed me that, I felt mentally handicapped. I felt my mother was telling me that I do have this, even though it wasn't her objective to do so.

Please, take your time to read this. It's very important that I know.

Cheers.

I'm sorry. It would be irresponsible of us to diagnose you over the internet when we don't know you and/or are not psychiatrists. All we can do is encourage your search.