aspies must look forward to things?

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I must have something to look forward to and it must be in the near future. Otherwise i will be sort of depressed. Is this an aspie trait?

Me too but I think it might be everyone. Good question, I'd like to know.

hmm, i think having something to look forward to helps people to cope better with depression. maybe because it's like a relief for the mind- to know some good feelings are on the horizon, and confirmation that the way we feel now is not permanent

I'm not very good at thinking about the future at all. The future is forever creeping up on me. I live in the present and spend much of my time thinking about the past.

the whole world seems to be at it. hype for 'holidays' always starts agess before now. New Years is just over and now people are talking about valentines day. (doublegrr)

It seems a bit of the opposite for me; I've tried to look forward to things because of feelings of sadness. It doesn't necessarily work the other way if I have something to be glad about.

I spent my whole childhood trying to look forward to things, it did not work out to well for me when I found out there really is nothing to look forward to really. Or at least that's how I feel......so trying to look forward to things just tends to depress me because its like there's nothing there.

so yeah maybe its nice to have things to look forward to but I guess its not vital as I am still here.

When I get into a depression, it's difficult for me to see anything positive in the future which is a vicious cycle that can feed itself. As OneStepBeyond mentioned and I agree, having something to look forward to definitely helps me cope with life....and especially at middle age.



When I started getting into writing music, that helped because I make a plan that gives me steps to look forward to - write a song, record it in steps until satisfied....and then when it's complete, I get a sense of accomplishment. Then, when inspired, start the next project.

Yep, doublegrr for sure. Valentine's Day is mushy, chocolate, calories, cavities, and sugar blues to me - and it doesn't help that I really don't like the color red. It's probably my least favorite holiday.

I have to have something to look forward to, or a particular reward for myself just to do everyday things.

I work my rewards into my routine and although they are just ordinary everyday things, I almost can't function without them.

^^you receive enough chocolate to give you cavities? alright for somee

i like red!

i do the rewards thing too olive. although they usually aren't rewards that other people would consider rewards

I should be thankful for red, otherwise I'd never have purple.

I'm wondering what types of rewards you all might be referring to ? Looking for some ideas.

OliveOilMom, I should try that. I am terrible about letting chores pile up.
I notice when I make lists for myself, I tend to get more done.

Yep, ditto. Ive even been known to buy things off of amazon that I really dont need just so I can look forward to it being delivered during the week.

My rewards are things like getting online and doing something, then getting up to do a chore or two and coming back online for a few minutes. Having a cigarette (I tried to quit but couldn't) or a cup of coffee. A new book to read, or an old one that I haven't read in a while, etc.

Usually my reward for myself at the end of the day is to get into bed with a book and a plate of food, or a snack. I get very annoyed if my husband goes to bed before I do and I can't do that.

Everyone likes to have things to look forward to, otherwise life would be boring or miserable. What precisely makes it an Aspie trait? NTs aren't some sort of emotionless robots you know.

Well, no, of course they aren't. But if they were some kind of emotionless robot, what kind of emotionless robot would they be? Just for funsies.