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Can't seem to be able to talk today. Even small inane. Responses are causing me a great deal of stress. Why is talking being so hard anyone ever had this happen. It's been too long since the last time before today.

I feel choked.

I can commiserate. I have occassionally lost my speech. Generally it is because of a stressful situation and it takes about a day to return. Have a commiserating hug and cup of tea and hang in there.

Thanks. I am not sure what triggered it. But its possible it is an amalgam of factors. I'm trying hard not to shut off but I am finding it extremely difficult to say anything out loud. I am usually really chatty and I'm trying t
not to cause alarm because then the questions start I'm having problems nodding and saying yes and no let alone answer questions. I also noticed my stumming is more pronounced. I can't really keep still so typing this on my phone is also being hard. I hope I. Can stop feeling like this soon.

sometimes I get to a point were I dwell too long about what to say that if I say anything it's too late and it would be weird if I say anything?

Are on any ADHD meds? Sometimes when I take concerta this happens to me when it wears off. Usually when I haven't eaten enough.

Not on any meds save for asthma ATM. Last one I had made my hair fall. Not fully mute ATM. But not talking much at all. Reserving energy for responses.drew for a while to work it out. No help.

Look up selective mutism... I suffer from that... and it can be triggered by little things too.

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I can always speak if I want/have to, but there are situations when I find it very annoying and exhausting.

I do this a lot... which is unfortunate because they are usually things that I really should say, but I never get around to it because by the time I'm ready to say them it's well past the point where it would be appropriate.

I, too, go through times when I can't talk. I can usually get words out if I absolutely have to, though I reach a point where what I'm trying to say isn't really coherent and I'm struggling to say it. Occasionally if I am under enough stress I will lose speech entirely for a couple of hours, but usually not longer than that.

Yep, there are times when I totally clam up or can't seem to talk above a whisper. Just one of those audio visual glitches that comes with the territory I suppose. Stress, lack of sleep, things like that, can bring it on or exacerbate it I suppose.

For me at times it is like I am writing everything on a glass chalk board in my mind before I can say it and a lot of times that glass chalk board shatters before I can finish writing or saying what was written.

At other times it is like some sort of assembly line putting the words together and I say it as fast as it spits them out but there are a lot of times that assembly line just stops mid word or sentence and I just can not find anything to say, or it gets the letters mixed up, usually it is M and S and can span words like "sine mhaft"(mine shaft) then people usually laugh at me.

I've gone non-verbal several times before. It's uncomfortable but what I do is wait it out and take time to be alone as much as possible to recharge.

Problem is that you're supposed to be able to communicate without problems, since not being able to do so is not understood. So you're adding up two problems: not being able to communicate and feeling anxious because you're not able to communicate.

I do feel unable to speak out loud sometimes. So I don't. I use short sentences and low voice, and I don't feel guilty for it anymore.

One piece of advice it took me long to discover: if you accept yourself and you don't feel guilty for being how you are, other people will feel much more confortable with you.

A lose the ability to speak somewhat routinely.

Stress will make me lose the ability to speak sometimes. I can't formulate words let alone thoughts in my head if i wanted to and i just need to be by myself or in silence for a bit. Even after i come out of it, i am slowed down up until a point where i guess i've been "recharged".

Also in certain settings like hospitals (for example) i will not talk at all, usually my mother or wife will do so for me. If i do talk its only if the nurse is nice and i will only say one or two word things.
I don't like those papers they give out that ask people to rate their pain 1-10. It just blows my mind so i usually pick 3, as i love number 3

Thanks for all the advice guys. I was a little verbal by the end of the day yesterday and I feel better today, though not as my average self yet. I had not though of selective mutism. I will have to look that up. Funny thing is even my diction in typing was terrible yesterday. I could not seem to be able to turn things into words, for lack of a better term.

As far as acceptance goes, I think my biggest pitfall was wanting others to be accepting, too. Like people understanding that I am autistic gave me a sense of validation for all the pain I have gone through before. But I understand that I have to be accepting, even if others are not. It does not solve people not understanding, but I do feel better for it. I have even gone back to dressing the way I like, regardless. Sleep may have been a contributor. My schedule was all thrown off yesterday. We where up and about earlier than used to, did a lot of hard work, went places we had not planned. My GF says we actually do not have a set pattern. But we actually do.

We always get up around 10 am, we get up get dressed I eat breakfast, sit at the computer and do homework for about 2/3 hours. We head out of the house (if we need to) and take care of stuff, go to a few stores, make Walk-Mart our last stop, etc. I can see the pattern and I am usually comfortable in it. Yesterday we got up two hours earlier, I had no time to eat breakfast, we did yard work at her mom's for about 3 hours, we went to eat at Sumo at lunch (we usually go round dinner time when we do) we had to stop at the hardware store (we all know how loud that is) we did not get to do the planting of our herbs which we had planned for yesterday. I did not get to do homework until 5 pm . . . Yeah My day was thrown off too much.

So at the end of this self analysis i came to the conclusion that I had to deal with soooo much yesterday, speech was thrown to the back burner so I could juggle everything else. I was also rocking a great deal, and swaying on the tips of my feet. I went to bed tired, grumpy and drained. Today I just want to . .. ease into homework and maybe draw a little.