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Hi.
I am 23 years old guy who recently got a ASD diagnosis after fighting depression and other burnout symptoms for about 3-4 years.

The thing is that I can not 100% emotionally accept this diagnosis and it came as a shock.
So what I would need from you is your thought about this?

Let me try explain my situation.
Yes, I feel different but I am pretty good in social situations and I have a few good friends.
We even go party in the club time to time, but I always carry earplugs because of the loud noise.

I love working out in the gym and I am interested in bodybuilding, so I spend 6 days a week in the gym and try to eat healthy as much as I can.
I also love gaming and spend a lot of time gaming, many time I prefer gaming over meeting friends etc.
I get tired of being with friends and family and I need my time with myself.
I hate being in malls and I am sensitive to light and smell.
I feel uncomfortable when riding trains and bus.
I dont like eye contact.
I often walk into people because I have trouble predicting peoples movement.
I like planing and like to know the weeks plan, but I have no trouble being spontaneous if something fun is happening.
I have very difficult explaining feelings and emotions.
I have had about 4 relationships and it went pretty good and my longest relationship was 2 years.

I understand sarcasm, jokes etc and I still got the ASD diagnosis.
So I do not know what to do with this. Should I accept it or try talking to the center that gave me the diagnosis.

Thank you so much for your time reading and feel free to ask questions.
Responses is very appreciated and sorry for bad writing, English is my second language.

Best regards

My primary and overarching thought is the very strong admonition not to allow some BS acronym to define your life.

Does the Dx provide any tangible benefit, such as tutoring, counseling, extra time on exams, etc.?
Does the Dx provide any actionable information leading to improved coping strategies?
If so, accept what's useful; discard the rest.

You certainly break a few of the common stereotypes, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you don't have ASD. There are many ways in which autism manifests. It all comes down to the question of whether you are impaired in the key areas, such as social communication, sensory processing, and repetitive behaviors/actions.

It can be hard at first to figure out how/if those impairments manifest in yourself. After all, you're born with autism and most of the time you've grown up with these difficulties and might find it hard to look at them objectively. I used to think that I was good at socializing simply because I've gotten better at it as I've gotten older. But I've learned since being diagnosed that I'm the only one who holds that opinion. You're also likely approaching the idea of autism from an uninformed point of view. I also thought when I was younger that all autistics struggled with sarcasm, but a look at this site will quickly tell you otherwise. Learning more about how autism presents in different people might help you put some things about yourself into context.

If you were diagnosed through neuropsychological testing, you should have received a report that listed the issues identified by the doctor who diagnosed you. That should show you what "justified" the diagnosis in your case. If you were diagnosed by a psychologist in a therapy setting, you should set up an appointment to talk about the diagnosis specifically. He or she will help you understand what led to the diagnosis.

It's possible that you were misdiagnosed. If you study the matter further and decide that you don't feel like the problems you face are significant enough or match the ASD criteria, feel free to reject the label. It's of no use to you if it doesn't help you better understand yourself and communicate your needs to others.

Thanks for the reply!
I got the Dx from a couple of months of psychological testing, but they said it was certainly not a clear case but 2 psychologist and 1 doctor are agree of the results.