Enemy in Disguise

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Well, I had been having some problems with some people at work. Then, for the past week those people have been really nice to me. Of course I thought they wanted to be friends and I end up telling them some personal information you know like do you have a boyfriend etc etc. It didn't occur to me that they may not have the best intentions until a family member pointed this out. I had previously trusted one of these people before only to hear them talking behind my back when they thought I wasn't there. Have any of you guys ever been in a situation like this? What did you do? How can you know if someone is being honest?

Don't worry about it. People talk about other people. As far as trust ... that takes time; for me, a long time.

I suggest not doing anything. Don't take it personally. If you feel you have given out too much information about yourself don't talk about those things anymore.

Guy at work was being really nice to me a couple of weeks ago. Then, same situation as you, I find that he's talking to the other colleagues when he thinks I don't hear it, about how I'm a bit more feminine than the other guys at work. So now I just don't give him much mind, and avoid talking too much to him, simply because I think it was a rotten thing to do.

How can you know if someone is being honest? The truth is, you can never know. Never. That is the meaning of 'trust'. You believe that a person is trustworthy, but it could always happen, at any given moment in time, that the person will betray your trust. Maybe in weeks, months, even years after believing they can be trusted. That doesn't mean you should assume the possibility of betrayal in everyone you meet, but you must not let this turn your world upside down, and you must always be cautious when sharing confidences.

I've had this problem before. The way I deal with it nowdays is to bring in lots of magazines about Cars (Car and Driver, Motor Trend ect.). I try and stick to reading those during lunch and breaks and limit my conversations with fellow employees. I don't know if this is good advice but, on my last job atleast I made it 6 months without offending anyone.