My father passed away when I was 7. Went out to play football one Sunday morning and never returned home.
So obviously I only knew him as my father, as a child.
A family we knew for my whole life who still live in London came to visit this weekend and I got to ask about my dad.
There are striking similarities between us it seems.
Apparently my father, like me, took everything too seriously. So basically whilst playing cards for pennies he would take it like it was a game involving thousands of pounds. If any one fooled around he would quickly lose his temper and demand they stop playing.
Also like me he did not seem to want to play along with others, rather do his own thing to himself. He would also not buy something that any one else had and would go to great lengths to be different.
One of the things told to me was how my dad played golf like all of his friends. But, my father refused to just go out and buy a golf bag off the shelf and ordered one to be made in a colour no one else had.
My father's mother was deeply mentally troubled. She died the year before dad so I have learned a lot about her since, but her diagnosis was "Manic depression" which is now known as Bipolar disorder.
However, something just doesn't seem right. When I talk to my family it does not sound like nana ever had what would be considered a true manic bout. Instead she just had waves of deep depression and terrible anxiety problems.
What I have also taken into account is that nana was diagnosed back in the 60s, when mental health services were non existent and they were cutting out sections of peoples' brains to try and cure their mental illnesses. However, I strongly suspect that like me nana was an Aspie. Looking at pictures of her she seems very strange to look at. Somewhat distant.
I do know she hated leaving the house and basically spoiled my father to death.
I don't know if this helps any, but every single last one of her grand children (Myself, my brother, my three cousins and my nana's daughters child) all suffer from crushing depression problems and either are, or have been on, some form of SSRI for it.
It's been very difficult to find history on it as my father's family all died very young. His sister was 47 and suffered a brain haemorrhage and my father was 35 when he died. His father also died very young from a heart condition and his brother died when he was 64 of the same thing, having had a double bypass.
Thankfully my heart seems to be OK but my brother takes medication as he has high blood pressure.