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21 Jun 2012, 8:45 am

I know a lot of aspies have issues with making eye contact, but how do you all feel when talking to someone wearing sunglasses? Is it better or worse than having eye contact?

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21 Jun 2012, 8:51 am

Tonydev wrote:

I know a lot of aspies have issues with making eye contact, but how do you all feel when talking to someone wearing sunglasses? Is it better or worse than having eye contact?

Wearing dark glasses when close speaking with another person is even more strange that avoiding eye contact. Not a good solution.

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21 Jun 2012, 8:54 am

I've never noticed any difference.

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21 Jun 2012, 8:59 am

Greb wrote:

Tonydev wrote:

I know a lot of aspies have issues with making eye contact, but how do you all feel when talking to someone wearing sunglasses? Is it better or worse than having eye contact?

Wearing dark glasses when close speaking with another person is even more strange that avoiding eye contact. Not a good solution.

Yeah, especially if you try to wear sunglasses indoors, and especially at work. They'll most likely jump to the conclusion that you must be drunk or high and trying to hide it.

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21 Jun 2012, 9:00 am

Greb, it is for the non-sunglasses person? I regularly wear a pair but no one ever says if they feel uncomfortable, so I assume it's not so strange... but, of course, it's annoying if they simply won't let on, just as they might do with smelliness.

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21 Jun 2012, 9:00 am

Sorry, I mean if the person you're talking to is wearing dark glasses.

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21 Jun 2012, 9:14 am

Tonydev wrote:

I know a lot of aspies have issues with making eye contact, but how do you all feel when talking to someone wearing sunglasses? Is it better or worse than having eye contact?

Do you mean talking to someone whom are wearing sunglasses? Or do you mean talking to someone while you yourself are wearing sunglasses?

If I wear sunglasses, I feel more comfortable walking on the curb, since a problem for me has been when and how to smile/nod/look at people coming towards me. Sunglasses fixes this issue, since I can look at them constantly and return a nod or smile if I see one from them. In a conversation I get self-conscious if I wear sunglasses, I feel it is impolite, so I need to take them off.

If the other person wears sunglasses, and I can't really see where they look and I assume they look at me at all times, which does not make it easier.

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21 Jun 2012, 9:15 am

Mootoo wrote:

Wearing dark glasses has its moment. If you wear them in the wrong moment, well, nobody is gonna tell you to take out, but it's very strange.

Basically, you're not supposed to wear sunglasses when:

(1) You're indoors.
(2) It's dark (either it's night or it's day but it's cloudy and raining, for example).
(3) You're outdoors, but you're talking with other people.

There's an exception to (3): when you're in a kind of daytrip you're socially allowed to wear dark glasses even if you're talking to other people. For example, you're hiking in the mountain, in a sunny day, or you're in the beach, or similar. Having some beers with friends in some kind of terrace in a summer sunny day would be in the edge: it's better not to wear them, but it's not that strange.

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21 Jun 2012, 9:24 am

Blownmind wrote:

If the other person wears sunglasses, and I can't really see where they look and I assume they look at me at all times, which does not make it easier.

Thanks. I can cope with the eye contact thing, but really really struggle to talk to any one if they're wearing sunglasses. Seems weird, as I don't like eye contact, but having the eyes blocked makes it harder still.

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21 Jun 2012, 9:27 am

I wear sunglasses indoors all the time because everyone in the world uses fluorescent lights to light their businesses.

I only take them off when the light isn't going to hurt my eyes or give me a migraine. This usually means in my bedroom, in the rest of the house, or when I am in therapy and the overhead light is off. Or it's night time and I'm outside.

If I go out in daylight without my sunglasses, the world doesn't even look right.

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21 Jun 2012, 9:42 am

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I really like this place, Most times I don't have to comment because someone has already explained it so much better than I could.

Let me add: When I go out in the sun or into offices/hospitals and I feel forced to take my shades off, I swear I can feel my pupils snapping closed and my eyes feel like they are being sucked right out of my head.

I can't use my mag-clip shades when using the computer because the lenses are polarized, gives me neck cramps holding my head in one position to be able to see the monitor. If I tilt my head a tiny bit, everything on the monitor goes black...

Anyone else find lens flare in recent popular movies *Star Trek* seriously annoying and hard to watch? Big screen LED/LCD 1080p LENS FLARES!! !! ! :evil:

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21 Jun 2012, 9:43 am

I almost always wear sunglasses if I go out in the daytime, even if it's raining.

I don't think I ever really thought about or noticed anyone else wearing sunglasses when I was talking to them.

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21 Jun 2012, 9:49 am

Cinematic lens flares hurt my eyes.

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21 Jun 2012, 10:42 am

Tonydev wrote:

Sorry, I mean if the person you're talking to is wearing dark glasses.

Since i don't make eye contact anyway, i don't care if they wear dark glasses or have eyes at all.

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21 Jun 2012, 2:00 pm

I am sensitive to light so wearing dark sunglasses is a possible solution. The problem is that I look like a wannabe criminal when I wear them. They look horrible on me.

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21 Jun 2012, 2:33 pm

Sometimes it freaks me out if someone's wearing sunglasses and other times I'm fine with it. I still don't like to look near the eye region.

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