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Do those you see as best friends in your life see you the same way?


I'm beginning to wonder if mine do; don' get me wrong, I love 'em to death, but I don't know if they quite feel about me the way I feel about them.



How about you folks?

Mine definitely do, and have made a point of telling me so. Then again, for all of my oddness, I am actually a caring person who tries to take care of and solve everyone's problems. I asked one of my closest friends once why he liked talking about his problems so much with me. His answer is that my logical way of dealing with them was calming to him.

I just notice that the majority of the time they're too selfish to even contact me; it's always me contacting them, unless they need help with something electronic-wise or issues with relationships/friends in their lives. It upsets me a lot. I'm always there for them, they're never there for me when I need them.

Well I know my close friends appreciate me in their own way, don't get me wrong.

Maybe I should've elaborated further.

You know being Autistic we have a sense of loyalty that no one else has.

Do you think that likely makes us best friends to our best friends in ways they can never be?

Fair enough; I guess they just don't understand enough what they have with us to be anywhere near as good to us as we are to them.

Getting even remotely close to what we offer them I suppose is as rare as it gets.

now, yes. my best friend introduces me as such. he also throws little fits when he feels people are annexing his best friend. my other close friends also feel the same way. the people around me are pretty affectionate. lots of hugging when we meet up. (i only like being touched by my closest friends.)

in the past though i had one person who i thought was my best friend. in hindsight i don't think she felt the same way, though she acted like she did at the time. she later turned on me in a really awful way so clearly we weren't really friends, let alone best friends.

even with my current best friend, i had that awkward moment a while after we first me where i considered him my best friend but i wasn't sure if he felt the same way. he eventually confirmed just in passing in conversations.

I have one close friend whom I would call my best friend, though he's never acknowledged me in the same way, and often refers to his other friends as his "best friends". He always goes <3 when I've said something quirky, or when I start talking about snails, as if it's some cute thing I do, when realistically it's quite a deep passion and not just a mild amusement.

I think that a major thing which sets us apart is sex, he talks about it sometimes and while I say it's okay to talk about it, I can't say that I will be able to understand it.

I often feel like "the listener", the person people talk to when everyone else is busy, y'know?
The moment I start initiating conversations, though, that's when things get awkward and people are just like, "err, yeah..." or the famous "uhhh" followed by an awkward silence.

<--- If he had best friends he'd be hanging out with them, not spending all his time on WP.

I have had a lot of friends in my life who I considered my best friends, but they did not think of me the same way.

However, at this point in my life, I am proud to say that I have a best friend who also considers me his best friend. He is WP's very own KyletheGhost!

I don't know my only real friend lives quite a long way away from me now, I would say she is my best friend, but I have no idea if she would say the same as she has lots of other friends.