Anyone else have zero friends?

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I was wondering how many other people here have found themselves in this

I left a very unhealthy LTR about six months ago, and since then, with the exception of the people I see at work everyday and a few visits with family, I have lived in total isolation.

How do you handle it? Has anyone successfully made it out of this situation?

Same here. Only difference is I've never had a girlfriend or relationship of any kind. I joined a social club about 2 years ago and get along well at work but that's about it. In fact I'm sitting alone on Friday night typing this. It sucks but I can't focus on the negatives and look ahead to the fact there are many 'social later bloomers' like myself in the world. I can't say the end is near but it is getting closer each day.

I have never really had any friends.

I've been in relationships with women since I was a teen but never had friends outside of those. Can't really say any of my relationships with women worked out too well though I just cant figure out the bond that people are supposed to have with each other whether romantic or friendship. People have explained it to me but I'm incapable of experiencing it. I've always wanted to know what it feels like though.

Over the years I've lost my circle of friends due to a lot of different factors. Now I don't have any friends. I chat with people at work but I don't have any close relationships and no family so there is no one to call in an emergency.
On one hand, that's all very sad. I think it's kind of universally agreed that the meaning of life is the connections you make with other people.
On the other hand, a coworker asked if I wanted to get drinks with a midsized group from the office and I immediately thought "good god, no!". I didn't say it obviously and I did have a valid reason to beg off, but I thought it was interesting that for all my internal whining about not having any friends, when I'm given a chance to interact and make some I absolutely DO NOT want to.
I didn't want to disrupt my routine. I'd ridden my bike to work. My dog needed her walk. I would be biking home tipsy. What would I do for dinner? Frankly, I wanted to ride home, walk the dog, make dinner and have a glass of wine while I watched the latest Breaking Bad online.

And I think that's been the crux of the problem all along. I want friends when it suits me and I can't be bothered with them when it doesn't. Basically, I'm not a very good friend.
I think it's definitely true that if you want a friend, BE a friend.

Friend-free since 2001.

There are a few friendly people in my life I can talk to once in awhile, but no actual friends.

I have no friends and it is OK.

Zero friends here. I stopped investing in trying a few years ago, in light of massive failure at keeping a friendship.

I have several work acquaintances but no real friends. There are several other people I see that I will greet and exchange hellos with but that's about it. There have been no people at my house in years except for plumbers, electricians, etc.

I have no friends at all. It seems like the friends ive had feel more like enemies.

It's just the way it is. But contrary to popular belief, or the way a lot of people act over it, it will not kill you.


The way to handle it is simple: have something better to do.



But anyone lamenting about being lonely should try marriage for a while and those days of lonelyness will become the good old days.

<--- All alone in the world.

Do imaginary friends in imaginary worlds count?