Any way to "calculate" emotional/developmental age

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I was just wondering how to figure out how "old" I am, developmentally....chronologically speaking, I'm 21, but I feel a lot younger than that, developmentally. I used to think of myself as being 12-14 emotionally/developmentally, but now I think I might be a bit younger. I've actually been thinking of myself lately as "A 21-year-old with the anger management skills of a preschooler." (Don't worry, my therapist and I will be working on this when I start seeing her again in the fall).

Can someone help me out on this? Thanks!

From the sounds of it you sound 21, the fact that you recognize your shortcomings and are willing to work on them in therapy is very mature and responsible. You have made more progress and have a healthier attitude than most "adults", we all have things that we are working on, you should be proud of yourself for working on your anger issues! Good luck to you!

Well, you could take the Vineland Adaptive Behavior Scales, if you can find a psychologist to administer it. The VABS assesses your practical skills, and many autism spectrum people score lower on the VABS than on IQ.

While I can't offer you anything in the way of concrete methods, PinkCoupe, I do have something to add about this aspect of AS. From my observations of myself and others Aspies I know, I don't think we can view emotional age as a monolith. I think there are different dimensions to it. So, I don't think you should view your own emotional age in a manner of totality, but analyze yourself and the subsequent dimenions of your emotional/developmental state. I hope this helps.

You could attempt to derive your emotional age from your EQ in the same way that one derives their mental age from an IQ test, assuming that an EQ score is given in the same format as an IQ score (where 100 is average).

If your test of choice only gives you verbal answers (weaker than average, average, stronger than average, then you can use the 15 point deviation system that an IQ test uses to where an extremely low/ lowest score possible EQ is 70, a "low" EQ correlates to 85, an "average" EQ is about 100, a "high" EQ is 115, and an extremely high/ highest score possible EQ is 130.

IQ= Mental Age / Chronological Age x 100;

Therefore, if you set up the formula EQ= Emotional Age/ 21 x 100 and re-arrange it to read (EQ/100) x 21 = Emotional Age, then one could plug in the estimated EQ and figure out a very rough estimate of their emotional age.

I do agree with BookPerson, however, on the fact that, like intelligence, emotional maturity has multiple components and multiple factors to consider. For example, you could be more aware of the implications of your actions on others than the average 21 year old whilst having weaker emotional regulation abilities than average.