Attitudes to Change?

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Is there anyone who dislikes change more because they loved the past than because they fear the future?

I keep hearing about people not liking, say, a new street layout (as a really lame example) because it entails relearning routines and habits and can be stressful. But for me it would be more that I just really miss the old layout.

I want everything the way it always was and I never want to grow up. There's an element of anxiety in my thinking, but it's related to loss of the old rather than fear of the new. I know quite a lot of people on here are nostalgic types, but I wondered if that extends to being a primary explanation for the common dislike of change type traits for some?

For me, it is really neither of those things; I have no particular affection for the past, and I certainly do not fear the future. I hate change because it affects my normal routine. The stress is directly related to the forced adjustment of my routine and has nothing to do with the actual change itself. The anxiety and stress may remain for the short amount of time it takes to implement a new routine then it vanishes. I don't really care for the things that changed themselves; it is much more the effects they have on me that bother me.

i do not fear the future. to be quite honest, the present moment can be quite uncomfortable also. i find that i sometimes refer to the present as being 'too contemporary,' which is a feeling that i have never been able to put into words. it is as if there are too many things that i am getting used to and not enough things i am familiar with.

i miss my exgirlfriend, not because i am afraid to be alone or fear that i will never meet someone quite as good. i miss her because she is what i know and being around her feels very 'not contemporary.'

My problem with change is the sudden bad feelings that are caused by sudden uneggspected changes. The past and the future don't have anything to do with my problem with change.

You dont have to grow up that is the one thing we have power over. ofcourse we grow older but we dont have to grow up.

I choose to say myself and still being a kid. I dont wanna be a grownup adult boring being serious.

I dont fear the future. I mean for me its like it cant get much worse really. when you have experience the death of a parent at age 6 then really, you have tasted all life can throw at you more or less.

The only thing there really is left that i fear, is just the day that my last parent dies, its a very odd feeling thinking about suddenly being alone in a world with no family or parents.

I do try and keep everything more or less as is, i hate to much change. Somehow i picture myself living in this one apartment my whole life, i cant really ever seeing me make such a huge change to my life as moving is. it takes sooooo long to settle down in a new place. learning when its best to go out to avoid the most people, finding an apartment where neighbours arent to noisy.. learning all the new sounds and such.

i cant even sleep at other people, because if its not my home, my bed and the sounds im use to, that just wont work, thats to much change for me, i wouldn get 1 hour of sleep.

I am also anxious with change, though I really couldn't pinpoint why. I guess I just don't like surprises. Interestingly, I went through a phase in my life when I convinced myself that I loved change, thrived on it...well, that caught up with me and left me with a slew of problems (not least of which were emotional). It takes so much energy to convince yourself of a bogus reality.

I've always had issues with change and transition.

When I was two, my mom had to enroll me in daycare. I would cry when she dropped me off and picked me up for the first two or three weeks, and then I adjusted and didn't cry at all. It wasn't separation anxiety. It was change aversion1

I do not deal well with change. Sometimes it is fear for the future, but most of the time it is a longing for the past or for things to be kept the same. I really REALLY miss my childhood because I was actually happy and relatively mentally healthy throughout. I often find myself crying for the child I once was because I miss her. Unfortunately I went through some tough stuff during my teens/young adult years and I feel as if it destroyed the sweet person I once was. People say it hasn't but I have low self-esteem so I still think it has. More recently I have been freaked out by the lounge furniture being moved around. I learnt the house in it's current layout and I cannot cope with anything moving. It really makes me go insane with fear, anger and just about every negative emotion you can think of.

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