so my friend asked me to officiate her wedding...

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holy s**t. she is wonderful and I love her and I told her I'm honored and flattered and would have to get back to her. she knows I have severe social anxiety etc and said it was ok to say no...

how would you react to this? it's only going to be around 30 people. I just have no idea how I would do and I'm really intimidated by this request. if it were just me I'd think maybe the better idea was to go ahead and try and if I screw it up then oh well, but it's my friend's wedding and she only gets one, and I'm afraid I'd stutter and screw it up and so on.

thoughts?

That is a tough decision. Weddings commonly have rehearsals, so you will probably get a lot of experience beforehand, and there may be a sizeable crowd where you won't have to worry about messing up. I find it easier to do something once I have it confidently "scripted" though. I played the part of best man at my friend's wedding, and was very nervous, but it turned out fine in the end (we rehearsed about 5 times through the whole ordeal).

I took a break before going to the reception to calm down a bit and also avoided the rush at the buffet, so it was a plus overall and I was glad to have participated.

tell her you're honored but worried. ask her how she'd feel if you stuttered. if she says she wants you anyway, go for it.

the very professional minister at my wedding flubbed the word "culmination" and said she would read from Hebrew scriptures when they were Greek. I think i'm the only one who noticed. am I still glad she performed the ceremony? you betcha.

I was best man to my longest running friend, he's my only real friend and has been for about 30yrs.
I was very anxious but back then I didn't know I was an Aspie.. I am prone to stuttering and all the normal Aspie stuff but I managed it and I did a damn fine job too..
The thing is that no one in the room at the wedding wants you to fail they will all be glad it's you up there and not them !
Even if you make a mistake they won't laugh at you, they will feel for you.... trust me, just try to relax and enjoy it !

Stu

you could try and get some anti anxiety medication for the wedding