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Okay, probably no more than I already do, but I am moving to the country. I grew up in a semi-rural town on the outskirts of a major city, and that is about the extent of my experience with living "the quiet life". It is something I have wanted to do for over 10 years and it looks like I'm finally going to give it a shot.

I'm excited and apprehensive. I don't know anyone there so I'll have to make new friends. I'll be a 5 hour drive from my family and current friends and intend to visit once a month.

I think there was a thread similar to this a while ago but I was after some perspectives from current members. Have any of you got wisdom to share in regards to making the transition from city (suburban) to country life? Is it really as great as it seems, or will I get lonely? What, in your opinion, are some important positives and negatives for an aspie living in a small (pop<10,000) country town? What can I do to make the difficult parts not so challenging?

Thanks folks!

I moved to the country 2 years ago, though not the country area I would have chosen if I were the one choosing (live with my parents)

Pros: quite, clean air, don't see neighbors often, brighter stars at night, nicer view of the sun rising/lowering/moon, can get some animals,

Cons: Gas...., Fewer stores around you, Can be lonely,

All I can think about atm...I wish I lived in a greener area with fur trees instead of tons of swamp trees....

Funny...we had a nicer tree in the old house in the "city" (about 80-100k) we had an old red wood, the only one in the neighborhood.

If your in a nice country area could be really fun...
If your in the swamp..could be less fun but still fun.

My dream has always been buying a nice cabin in the Smokey mountains. I love blazing in front of the mountain scenery. I used to live in a small town. It's easier to make friends because everybody knows each other. With small towns you will enjoy the company of really nice people as opposed to rural towns. Good luck on your move.

I grew up and now live in a country-ish area (also living w/parents) -- agricultural; apples previously, grapes now. Agree about the positives & negatives. After living in a city for college I really appreciated the quiet out here. And, fortunately, there's a good electronics supply & surplus store not too far away.

There's 8 or so assorted fruit trees in the back yard that burst into blossoms about a week ago, so there is fruit a'comin around here as well.

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any aspie get lonely? ha! just enjoy your solitude and time out trekking around in nature.

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Oh, regarding the lack of nearby shops I find myself using amazon a lot, these days. Given retail markups I find that mail-order + shipping is actually usually cheaper than driving and buying in a shop a lot of the time.

As far as loneliness, as long as I have my cat and the internet I'm ok, but if you're not a hermit and aren't aiming to be a cat lady/person then it might be a problem, though.

It took me a couple of years to adjust to rural life, but it's fine. You do lose a lot of conveniences not having everything nearby, and the lifestyle is a little different. What struck me is the fact that not greeting random strangers on the street is seen as very rude, but it was normal in the larger cities. Everything's slower paced, which can be a good thing. Good luck on your move.

To me, it doesn't seem to matter that much. Most of the things that determine your happiness are the same regardless of where you live.

Actually, the city can be more lonely, sometimes, because in the country it's easier to randomly run into people you know.

I've thought about it being easier to make friends in a small town but I'm not sure. I fear my peers will not be anything like me and I'll struggle to get along with them, to find common ground and things to do together and talk about. It is easier to find like-minded people the more people there are around.

Also I kind of like the anonymity aspect of city life. Has anyone found that having "everyone know everything about you" feels invasive or draining? I think the town (actually technically a city) that I'm moving to is big enough that it shouldn't be much of an issue. Will see, I guess!