how do you deal with the negative feedback

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I was wondering how other aspies deal with the almost constant negative feedback/criticism/unacceptance that NTs seem to give?
Even if I really try to act "normal" other people still think I'm different(weird). I am also usually drained after basically being someone else and being on "high alert" for any possibly offensive behavior I may be exhibiting. How do you other aspies deal with this?

... I simply don't care.
I am indifferent to criticism.

Depending on how it's delivered, I either say, "Thank you for letting me know; I will try to improve in that area," or run away crying.

I stay home.

I spend a lot of time with really old people and really young people, like my senile old granny and my kids, because they don't care if you are weird or not. They're just grateful to find someone who will actually pay attention to them and talk to them like people.

I deal with some negative feedback okay, but there are times that it hits me so hard, it can hurt my feelings. I get what I was doing wrong most of the time, but when I get criticized sometimes, it makes me want to cry or not want to talk to anyone.

It depends on my mood. I can ignore it if in a relatively good mood but if in a bad one I can go on the offensive and glare at people or say something if really angry. Generally I try to avoid going out much as I can't stand being around most NTs - they're too judgmental and nasty for me to deal with; always pulling other people to pieces; incapable of not commenting or having opinions on others all the time; often me. I'd be in prison if I reacted every time they upset or annoyed me. They aren't worth the hassle though. They make me feel bad about myself and I know it's them not me who is the problem as when I'm at home not having to be around them I feel perfectly fine.

Its something you learn.

I personally dont care what they think. they can say or think whatever they want.

It used to hurt me a lot and probably even now can do.

The important thing for me now is that I know it's not that I am bad or it's my fault. I just appear weird to other people but inside I am a rational intelligent good person. When I remind myself of that, it somehow feels a bit better. It still saddens me that I will always be regarded negatively because of other people's misunderstanding.

There are still some people who don't regard me negatively and I think it's an indication that they are the really good people who don't judge, who are capable of seeing more than superficial appearance/words/actions and who are worth getting to know.

Very badly. It pisses me off, and you don't want to see me when I'm pissed off. Incidentally I don't respond at all to positive feedback. Just keep your opinions to yourself, and we'll get along fine. I really don't care what anyone thinks about me.