Do you sometimes feel sad or scared for no apparant reason?

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That happens to me a lot and I wonder if it is because time is not always linear for me so emotions just kind of come up whenever they do without a necessary trigger or at least one that I am aware of. Does this happen to any of you? Does anyone think this is a Spectrum thing? I am feeling a little scared and sad right now for no apparent reason so I thought to go ahead and ask. It will pass like it always does but it happens very often for me.

Interestingly enough I usually feel in my youngest self during these times. I know there are a few threads where some of us have said that we sometimes act and respond to things as very young children and when I get like this I am usually in that state. It feels almost like the emotions or the level of vulnerability or insecurity that a toddler would have. Anyone know what I mean?

Yes on both counts. My emotions are not "linear" either. Often they are delayed and sometimes come from no apparent source. Sounds like you are coping well. I find distracting myself sometimes helps me not to dwell on these feelings.

Sad for no reason = depression
Scared for no reason = anxiety

Everyone in the world has felt like this for no apparent reason.

I hardly ever feel sad, but when I do, it's usually without a reason.

I feel anxious a lot (even without a reason).

Unfortunately many people have too much leftover rationale for both these feelings, and potentially just as many are left without any means of distinguishing between the two, and sometimes even their positive emotions as well.

Ah frack... Oxford commas make me gag... I need sleep.

All the time, especially at work. I feel I want to escape, and walk out into freedom. I prefer to be my own boss and make my own entertainment and hobbies. If I could I would be self-employed, but it's not that simple to do on my own, and I don't have friends that would want to do it with me.

I don't know if this is anything to do with this, but sometimes when I look at something like a jar of jam or a vase of flowers, I think of homely thoughts, and just crave to be home where I can feel safe and under no pressure and being judged by no-one. The outdoors doesn't make me feel scared if I'm getting my own shopping or whatever, but if have to go to work or something, the outdoors looks scary and I just want to go home.

Sometimes I wish I could be at home cooking different things like lovely cakes, and selling them to a local market or something to get a bit of money. I would like a nice sunlit kitchen to do it in. I wouldn't feel so sad and scared, and I wouldn't get lonely because my friends and family can still come, and I'll have a husband come home from work in the evenings.

OK that's just my dream life but that's how I would live if I could.

Thank you. Distracting is a good idea. I always like to acknowledge them and give them a little room to be there as well, not for too long but just long enough. I figured they are there because they need to be and if I try to ignore them or shove them away the come back worse. But I don't linger too long because I have a lot of responsibilities and so I make myself do whatever I have to do. I find that one of the things that helps me the most, actually, is sunshine. Even if I step outside for just a few minutes if I don't have time to go ride my bike or something, or even a trip to the grocery store, just the fact that I am outside and in the sun makes a huge difference. If it is raining I still go outside because I actually enjoy the rain, I think it is really beautiful. Anytime I can get outside it helps. I have even taken walks around the neighborhood in nothing but my sweats in the middle of the winter at 2 in the morning. The cold air and the quiet night where I could see the stars and the moon were exhilarating and calming at the same time and I felt so much better. Sometimes I just have a good cry too and that does the trick. But I do think that it is very important to not pretend that these feelings are not worthy of acknowledgement and to allow them some space. Otherwise I might end up needing much more than just a bike ride or a walk around the block.

But I am glad to see that others know what this is like.

Cberg, I have to really think about what you are saying here because it is a bit difficult for me to understand. I often think in pictures and what you say seems to make a lot of sense but I am trying to understand everything it means. Do you think you could explain further what you mean? Try to say it as if you were explaining to a 12 year old and that will help me understand better. Thank you. Skibum.

I hear you. Those are wonderful dreams and things to aspire to and it would be a lovely way to live.

I do too, but mostly from feeling isolated, alone, and alien to the world around me. I also feel like nobody understand me and nobody bothers to even try. And that really gets under my skin, sometimes without my realizing it. I go through periods where I feel so pathetic and alone

Yes on both accounts.

Memory is sticky - that is to say people usually don't remember a given event unless something prompts them to. The exception is when a line of reasoning evokes a negative memory, like in this case. You don't need to relive something to be affected by it, and that same line of reasoning can diverge to the point of making you forget what made you sad. Too much of this leads to dissociation between emotions and stimuli, known as Alexithymia, as I understand it.