Reading minds

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A friend/acquaintance, the wife of, came to drop off some hand-me-downs yesterday. She said that she had to book to use the computer at the library because her internet was down for a few days. She kept looking over my shoulder into the rumpus room while she was talking, and sort of wiggling. It looked a bit odd and I was wondering why she was doing it. We talked for a while and then she left. About 5 minutes after she left I thought she might have been giving me some sort of hint that she wanted to use the internet. I rang her up and asked if she wanted to use it, and she said yes.

Sometimes when people that I know come (not many and not often), I open the door and chat to them for a while. When they leave and I've closed the door, I often think if I should have invited them in for a coffee.

I don't think of things at the time, they dawn on me later. Although, I guess there's others that I never realise.

It would be far easier if people just said what they want. “My internet's down, can I use yours?” “I've got a few minutes, can I come in for a while?” It's not hard really. It's a lot easier than reading minds.

What would these people do if they were haemorrhaging from a femoral artery? Knock on the door and pull faces at you in the hope that you call an ambulance.

This happens to me all the time! What really bothers me, is when people get annoyed at me for not picking up on their hints. If it's such a meaning favour they're after, why can't they just ASK?

This pretty much sums it up for me. It's been happening all my life. What I lament most were the "let's have sex" signals that I realized too late. Sometimes years too late.

This is just one of the differences between autistic minds and normal brains. Some normal people have no problem coming right out and asking. Others, though, have some issue of some kind going on. Like being worried about rejection, taught not to impose on others, etc. There are all sorts of reasons they don't just come right out and ask for what they want or need.

Yes, I definitely have this problem. I'm getting much better at hints, though; recently I was in conversation with a guy and I could tell by his body language that he was interested in me; he even said something like "I'm into women who are 30-plus" (he's 23) and I picked up on the fact that he was talking about me. Still, it's frustrating; I wish people would just say what they mean and mean what they say.

Try being married. Husband =\= Mind Reader

"Isn't it cold in here?" means "Turn up the feckin thermostat!"

"Are you getting hungry?" means "Let's go out for dinner."

"Are you wearing that?" means "Go change your clothes."

"Nothing's wrong." means "You had better apologize, right now!"

"You know what's wrong." means "I'm in a bad mood, so give me a reason to take it out on you."