Sometimes I just cant talk

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I have never really been non-verbal, not by the standard definition. I am actually quite articulate. I have more problems by saying the wrong things, or taking too long to think of the right things (or monologing) that I have an inability for speech. But sometimes, out of the blue, I can talk very little or I stutter when I try. Like the words got lost between my brain and my mouth.

Does not happen often but it did twice today and just made me curious to ask, who else experiences these bouts of words just . . being elusive!

This happens to me from time to time. I remember someone asked me a question and I thought the answer, but the words didn't come out of my mouth. I was really tired, it had been a long day. This was a friend of my cousin and was really nice and I just couldn't move my mouth. I feel bad for being rude to him because he and his wife were so friendly, but no words would come out of my mouth. That was a few years ago and I still feel bad about it.

It doesn't happen to me that badly very often. I think it depends on how tired I am and how I am feeling. I am told at work I am very quiet. I just don't have anything to say most of the time unless someone asks me something specific.

I have that quite often, especially when greeting someone I know in public. I practically never greet people, even though I try to say it. I also have it when talking in a group, which can be quite annoying. Or when really tired, like right now, christmas consumed all my energy.

I'm not sure if what I have is similar or not, but I stutter. Not constantly or anything, thank god it's fairly infrequent as I've had it much worse at points in my life, but it happens. These days my stutter is more of a block stutter, where I won't be repeating a word but will instead be silent while I try to relax enough to get past the problem syllable. If someone's looking at me I probably look pretty stupid as my mouth will be forming the word but not making sound. For me it almost always occurs at the start of a word, often when it's a vowel to begin with.
I saw a speech therapist once for it when I was a teenager, and they basically told me it wasn't that bad and that it happens because of tension. She gave me a couple of tips, one of them being to repeat the syllable x amount of times (any number I decided in my head) and then go on with the word. I don't really do that much, not sure how to apply it to my block stutter that's prevalent now anyways. What I do do sometimes however is go back to the start of the sentence to see if I can do it again. Mainly though I try to physically relax. I usually don't notice that I'm tense at all when I stutter, but I also didn't call my overwhelment of having responsibilities, anxiety, so maybe I'm not as good at reading myself as I feel I am.
I know when I'm going to stutter just before it happens.

Stuttering for me doesn't at all feel I've lost the words somewhere, I know what I want to say but I can't.

Thanks for the input, it was at least interesting and I feel a little less weird!

This has happened to me several times. Usually when I get very stressed, upset or angry. I start stuttering and then if it keeps going, I find it very hard to talk at all.

The feeling you described of losing the words between brain and mouth is the same for me too. This feeling happens very often when trying to have a conversation, so that's why I rarely join in on conversations unless its on a subject Iknow very well.

this happens me as well. i didn't even know other people experienced this until i came to these boards. i'm not sure what causes it but it's usually a sign that i'm overwhelmed, in some capacity.

I'm unable to talk when things are too stressful.

The only time I really experienced being mute like that was last Summer or the Summer before when a friend/coworker was asking me some heated loaded questions & the way in which he phrased them meant there was no way for me to respond without agreeing with what he was saying, and I didn't agree because it wasn't true - so I "couldn't," respond. Being mute made him angry, and I managed to explain that I didn't respond because I couldn't.. because my brain was in "black and white," mode like computer code and the question you asked didn't have a logical answer that was true, so I literally couldn't speak. That was a frustrating day, but I had recently been reading a lot about Asperger's and was able to convey this stuff to him in a way that made sense and everything worked out ok in the end.

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Many times unable to talk...when sensory or emotional overload happens basic communication is not really available.

The same thing happens to me. Sometimes I just feel like I can't talk. Sometimes I know what I want to say, but it's like I just can't get my mouth to make those sounds. Other times my mind is just blank and I have nothing to say.

It's worse for me in the mornings, especially if I have to get up earlier than usual. Or late in the evening if I am really tired.

It happens to me all of the time, especially if I'm tired or overwhelmed. Sometimes I can't talk at all, in which case I will seem very rude or like I am ignoring you... though I sometimes try to write to the person to get around it. Other times it will just be something that happens where I will lose the words I'm trying to say mid-sentence or having trouble forming the sentence. I've found that if the latter is true it helps to stop trying to talk, take a deep breath, and try again.

I've done it again. I had to speak quickly to someone on the customer service desk in a shop, but didn't realize that I'd jumped the queue. A very nice old lady got my attention and politely informed me that the queue started further back. I just looked at her. I couldn't find the words to explain that I only need to say 2 words to the woman on the desk and I'd be out of the way. I feel bad because I didn't mean to be rude, especially as the woman was so nice. I just turned to the customer sevice woman, told her what I had to say and high tailed it out of there as fast as I could.

Thanks to everyone for the posts. I have noticed that sometimes I just feel overwhelmed in a non emotional sense and this seems to be when it happens the most like when I am in the living room with all my family in here doing different things at once.

I can talk most of the time, but I'm always a bit slow, I talk slowly and need a lot of pauses inbetween. Since that is my default state, whenever something happens that makes it harder to talk, I go mute.
This happens when I'm very emotional, when there's a lot of background noise, when someone doesn't give me time to answer, when I'm in a group of people and everyone's talking...
It doesn't happen very often, and I can usually still nod or blindly say yes or no or some other short answer. I always take a long time to answer and don't say much in general, so people usually don't notice.

Yeah, I occasionally stutter or have trouble getting words out if I'm tired or a bit overwhelmed in which case I'll take a breath and start the sentence again.