Self Praise

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I often find that it helps boost my moral after achieving something to say outloud to myself "Well Done" or "Excellent".
I do this, but I wondered how many others do.

No, I sometimes think "yeah" or "awesome"...maybe "good"

I don't do it but I think it's a good idea!

Sweet.

Boo-yah!


You da man!


Snootch to tha Nootch.


It is good to be king.

Well done babybird!

I didn't used to ever, but I do a bit here and there now.

As for positive affirmations in general, I like to sing along to this song when I'm driving along by myself and it comes on the radio:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4_Dmilr2T10[/youtube]

Definitely my current favourite radio track by far.

When I achieve something I already know I've done something good; I don't need to tell myself about it.

You don't need to, but there are many benefits to healthy, realistic, positive self affirmations.

Try doing it sometime. It feels awkward, lame & cheesy at first.. but then you just can't help but smile and feel good. True story.

This topic brings back a childhood memory of mine. I was in a first grade school play and it was the first play I had ever done in my entire life. At the end of the play the audience applaused us by chapping and I thought it would be appropriate to join in on the clapping as well. The teacher came up to me and said " You don't applause yourself. That's boasting and it tell other people that you are being arrogant.".

That may be something worth doing. I'll have to give it a try next time I solve a major crisis during my various operating system experiments.

I tend to go through on/off depression over hours and days. It all gets pretty severe and I can get stuck in negative false thoughts so when I may be overcoming it I tell myself of past successes and how it may take more time but I'll eventually reach that next goal.

I have executive function issues to due to ADHD which mental illness just makes worse so I tell myself, yeah, I did it, so I can feel some relief. I even feel like a deserve to give myself a bit of praise for making dinner some nights.

Then I can become very impatient in one of my hypomanic moods and I have to slow my thinking down and remind myself what I've accomplished so far and not to overdo it because I know what that does to me.

If I've achieved something good, I already feel good.
If I know I have good traits, I feel good about them.
Telling myself "every day, in every way, I'm getting better and better" with no evidence of such, would be delusional BS and a good way of NOT doing anything.

Have you done it?

Try it with an honest effort for a while and you'll experience for yourself that positive affirmations are not delusional BS.

Almost any self help author or motivational speaker will tell you the same, too. There's a reason that a lot of happy healthy successful people do things like this for themselves.

The self-help industry is a way of selling books by making people feel good about themselves without actually having to work at anything.
You know what really makes me feel good? Actually doing something, instead of sitting around patting myself on the back for no reason.

You might not need to do it but there are people out there that may need a boost to their own confidence.
I agree that being too positive is delusional but so can being too negative. I've experienced both sides of the delusional spectrum.

I think the last part is an unfair assumption. Think of positive affirmations like someone taking medication. They take it to decrease those negative thoughts but they still have therapy to really work themselves out of anxiety or depression. Being positive is just a booster to help motivate you enough to go out and make a difference in your life.

I wasn't speaking for anyone but myself. Affirmations don't work for me. They might work for someone else.



I agree, and I never said otherwise in my posts.



That's a good point. Positive thoughts may help as a motivational tool, but, at some point, you're going to actually need to go out and do something instead of sitting around feeling great and asking the universe for help. All of the positive-thinking/self-help books I've seen focus too much on the "feeling good" part and not so much on the "knowing what to do next", "putting in the hard work" and "actually doing something productive" part. If you do the former (feeling good) part without the latter (action) part, it will fall apart the second you realise that not only have you not achieved anything you wanted to, you haven't even tried (no, making lists about how great you are is not trying).
I was reading a book that was a counter to the positivity industry, and do you know something interesting it said? That the people most likely to buy self-help books were those who had bought them in the past. If any of the books were the magic bullet that most of them claim to be, do you think there would be any need for people to buy more self-help books?