firemonkey wrote:
This is because text book definitions of such people describe them as aggressive and confrontational. I am actually avoidant and fearful.
That is not a legitimate reason to dispute the diagnosis unless those described traits are part of the diagnostic criteria.
Some people, for example, don't fit the descriptions of autistic people, but they are still autistic because they fit the diagnostic criteria.
Such descriptions are based on common presentation of the condition; there will always be people who don't present commonly. It's the diagnostic criteria that are the proper basis for diagnosis.