An Aspie? Me? Really?

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I've been on this site for 7 years....... 7 long years picking apart every detail of my brain. Well, finally I'm diagnosed..... it seems that one part is over and another part is just beginning... The frustrating part is trying to get my husband to understand, he can see the individual symptoms, but not the whole syndrome. Like for example he randomly told me I seem to have a hard time getting in other people's shoes, he doesn't know that is part of AS.

Congrats, it must be a relief after 7 years of pondering and researching

I hope things work out for you

About time.

What's cute is my husband is trying to help me with my AS deficits and doesn't even understand why I have those problems. Like for example, he takes it upon himself to help me be social, and to put myself in other people's shoes, seriously. Also he has reminded me that the bird stuff had the power to bore people. Maybe it's a good thing to be paired up with someone that is good at the stuff you are not good at? My husband excels at being social and at empathy.

That's kinda how it works for my wife and I. My getting the formal diagnosis a few years ago was a good thing. It's helped me to understand myself better and also for my spouse to understand better as well. Things have been much improved in our relationship as a result.

The biggest plus for me in getting the diagnosis was to find out that I'm not alone in this world with all my differences but that there is a whole group of people out there with similar issues, similar problems that I can draw on for advice, feedback and support.

Sounds like you're heading on the right path. It's great to hear that your hubby is being supportive and that the two of you are balancing out each others strengths. Best wishes for even better days ahead.

Congratulations. Now you have the answers.

Congratulations! If you're anything like me, now you can go through a stage of explaining/justifying some things you did before, but with more sense that your reason is correct. I hope this will be a good next phase in your life now you can move on with this firmer foundation.

It is a very good thing to be paired up with someone with different skill and who respects you. A marriage is not the same as a business but there are similarities. The most successful business I have been employed at were ones where there were 2 partners with very different personalities and strengths but who greatly respected each other. It seems you are fortunate to be in that type of situation. He will never understand it like we do, but why you are the way you are is something you could help him with like he helps you with social skills. You can explain it to him, give him materials to read or have your clinician explain it.

Glad you have finally found out for sure. It shows you are a tenacious person who does not give up easily.

congrats on the Diagnoses

Well done. It was a massive thing for me when I finally got my disgnosis.

In terms of helping your other half understand, get him to read The Complete Guide To Asperger's Syndrome by Tony Attwood. Great book.

I have that book as an ebook, bought it a few years ago actually. I already read to him the story of the kid and the batteries and he paralleled that with me and birds, but he keeps saying that can't be part of a disorder.

He's now trying to encourage me to express my bird special interest more, he keeps trying to get me to talk about it. In fact, I'm trying to get an internship and it would mean living away from him a couple hours away for a couple months... but he supports it because it would help any future endeavors of becoming an Ornithologist.