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how do you celebrate your birthday ? do you have parties or go it solo? every year at camp i bring a cake and have a birthday party at camp. how sensory issues affect you?. how does you autism connect with your birthday?

dont understand the point of birthdays other than it thankfuly coming with free presents/food/drink-with presents they mustnt be wrapped,must be told about them in advance,will take advantage of it and ask support staff can we go to somewhere nice like sandcastle waterpark or a special needs sensory/soft play centre called jump space,all of this must be planned, it then gets put on a visual PECS activities planner on the staffs notice board so am able to see it,and on the day its put on the PECS timeline of mine.

These days I spend all my birthdays alone at home. People think that's sad but actually I'm pretty happy with it! Because it means I can do what I want, spend the day how I want to, and also avoid getting overloaded the way some big, social celebration can do to me.

I don't actually have the people in my life who would throw a party or anything anyway -- in fact, nobody I know at this moment in my life actually knows when my birthday is, or remembers if they did know! But I'm kind of relieved about that too.

I usually treat myself and buy something special I've been wanting. I just spend the day trying to keep things as much the way I need them to be in terms of sensory issues, etc.

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My parents will usually invite some of my relatives to our house one weekend and we'll have cake and I'll open presents. I didn't have a big fancy 'Sweet 16' celebration?nothing pretentious like that. (No offense to people who make a bigger deal out of their birthdays than I do.) This sounds awful to non-autistics?and probably some autistics, too?but I don't like being surrounded by family.

All I really want to do on my birthday is what I do any other day: be by myself. I don't want my mother to talk me through how to accept presents 'Look her in the eyes, smile, and say 'thank you'.' I don't want people banging on my bedroom door (my great-aunt does this, and it causes me physical pain.) When possible, I like to sneak away and be left alone.

Not that any of my friends would care enough to do this, but I have this slight fear that someone, someday, will throw me a surprise party. An autistic's worse nightmare. Three cheers for unexpected and uninvited sensory input!

I don't do anything really special, I'd celebrate my birthday if I had something to celebrate but just being alive another year doesn't do it for me. I don't think I like myself too much, I just find celebrating my birthday embarrassing. At this point, I'm not really happy about being older anymore.

My parents have been divorced for about fourteen years now, so I've spent most of my life celebrating my birthday twice. I usually do something simple with family; eat cake (or chocolate pie; best pie ever), open presents, go to dinner with perhaps one friend in tow, and do it over again at the other paren'ts house. It's kind of nice. I think I would be sad and lonely if I had to celebrate my birthday alone; I enjoy holidays, and although the bigger ones like Thanksgiving and Christmas can wear me out, it makes me very sad to imagine being by myself during such times. I was even a little lonely celebrating the fourth of July here in the US by myself this year, and I don't even care about barbecues and fireworks. I guess it's just the principle of the thing.

I usually celebrate it with my family, but on my last birthday, I couldn't go home because I had a final paper to finish. So I bought myself half a red velvet cake and a few presents. It's a nice way to celebrate surviving another year of my life

I don't like birthdays, I always feel depressed, VERY depressed, like "why I'm getting so old? I don't want to grow up, why i'm not 10 years old anymore? why?", I heard it's peter pan syndrome, anyone related to this?!
And I don't like people hugging me, I never know what to do when they sing "happy b-day", should I sing together? Should I just laugh and look around? OOOH NO. hhahaha

I don't much celebrate it at all. I typically get more birthday wishes from people online on message boards, than in real life. I tend to spend my birthday hanging out at my aunt's house (where my mother and grandmother live) and eating something they cooked; but I don't get presents anymore and no one bothers to converge on my location. I used to love birthdays, and then everyone just stopped giving a damm about me and I stopped giving a damm about b-days. :/

It's usually a very overwhelming day. Filled with worrying I'm not thanking people properly or not thanking them enough. Also with all eyes on me I tend to get very self-conscious. That can happen any day but a birthday is pretty much a written guarantee. Other people's birthdays can also be a challenge. With stuttering I focus so much on just getting the words happy birthday out. Even if I do it never comes off naturally. Birthdays highlight, if not intensify, my inability to be socially natural.

It's just my husband and I. I don't ask for cake and presents. This year I decided to go out on my birthday and I went to Build A Bear workshop and my mom got me a big contained of Red Vines and the next day her, my dad, and I went out with my family. I also had two cakes because my husband bought me one and my parents bought me one not knowing we got one already.

Just one more revolution around the sun. wheeeeee.
i don't really have big parties for my birthdays, most of the time we'll just have a family barbecue or go on a trip somewhere. for my 14th i went on a trip to San Francisco with my immediate family and i really enjoyed it. when we have barbecues, what i enjoy is having my family over and just letting them have fun while i sit in the living room eating and drawing or something. the parties are more for them, not for me. also i don't really have a problem with all the people packed in my small house and yard, it's just being dragged into a long conversations with drunk uncles and being in pictures that makes me feel iffy.

as i get older i won't be celebrating them as much, or at all any more, most likely because, well i'll be getting older, and my parent's won't be there to insist that i do something. i might celebrate somehow the more 'milestone' birthdays like 18, which is my next one, and 21, but after that i plan to be done. i didn't do anything for my 16th.

i was thrown a surprise party for my 10th, 11th or 12th birthday, i don't remember. but what i do remember is telling my mom not to throw me a surprise party, i told her a million times, and when she did it in the end i was very annoyed. i wasn't exactly surprised, i knew in the back of my head my mom wouldn't listen to me.

I don't like birthdays either. I don't understand them.
People say, "happy birthday". How can I suddenly be happy on my birthday when I haven't been happy on any other day?
I hate the attention. I don't know what to do when people give me gifts.
I live in mortal fear that someone will sing happy birthday to me.
I am only one day older than the day before, not one year older.
I've heard people say, "You have to be nice to them because it's their birthday." So what, I can be rude to them on any other day?

I don't really like the whole idea that your birthday needs to be this big blow-out party or something.

I had parties as a child. Not anymore.

I also don't really like telling anyone it's my birthday. I don't want to draw too much attention to myself.

I like to keep everything low-key.

I don't celebrate my birthday. If people around me do I try to be polite and show gratitude though.
Aside from not really seeing the point, birthdays remind me that I've been alive for another year, and that's bad because I don't want to be. Also I don't like being the centre of attention or anything like that.

I just invite my friends over and we spend time together watching anime and stuffs. It's just like regular meeting with friends (which doesn't happen often because we all live in different cities now and we met a few times a year) but there is a cake and I get gifts.
And we also tend to celebrate the St.Andrew's Eve then because my birthday is very close to it (26th of November, the St.Andrew is 29/30th of November). We do the future divinations using candle wax and have fun interpreting the shapes. Noone really believes it come true but it is a nice a thing to laugh at. However there may be something in it. I remember when I was a child (10) and a shoe divination told us that my 3 year younger(7) friend will get married way faster than I (actually I was the last one of 5 girls participating, all younger than me - but the 7 year old girl won the competition). I considered it stupid then. But right now, she(22) is really married and I(25) am still nowhere in the male-female interactions.