Sniffing out other auties/Aspies

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Is it possible that other auties/Aspies sniff each other out? It's like I have an AS radar (we've heard of gaydars, same thing).

Here's some instances:

-Valentine's Day weekend back in 2009, I took a girl from a nearby college on a semi-formal date (we met on Facebook because at one point I was going to go to her college, and I ended up eventually doing so, and originally we're from the same part of NY). Although nothing happened between us romantically, we're still really good friends (in fact, she's one of my oldest friends in length of friendship duration) and during the summer of 2011, she was finally diagnosed with Asperger's, and that's on top of the other health issues she has. I give her credit though: she has her master's, I don't.
-One of our other friends also suspects she might be on the spectrum.
-I met this girl on a dating site a month ago, and it turns out adding her on Facebook was a huge gamble because I thought to myself "this girl's out there". Turns out she also is on the spectrum, after I mentioned I had it.
-A few of my railfan buddies are definitely on the spectrum, with varying degrees of severity.

Any thoughts?

I've done this in certain workplaces. Someone has a quirky kind of intelligence and curiosity that appeals to me.

We have a couple of positive interactions. Then I might think of the person as a friend rather than just a friendly acquaitance, snd I can get hurt. At least in how I think about it, whereas it might be relatively common and an okay idea to jump two levels of friendship in a promising circumstances, I might jump four.

i suspect my older cousin Ivan may be on the spectrum. he spends a lot of time in his room when there's family events at his house (he lives with his mother, my aunt), he's very quiet when i talk to him and doesn't make long conversation. he also spends a lot of internet time on an INTJ forum and he obsesses (or obsessed) over Pink Floyd. i don't know about sensory issued though. and i won't ask him. i don't see him often, though he works in my hometown..

I think it's a takes one to know one thing. Also spending a lot of time around ASD people either here or in real life, makes it more obvious to me when someone acts aspie. There's a new kid on one of my teen forums and he talked about being into making detailed journals of things that happen in his life in a scientific way and stuff like that.....and the way we seem to be automatically connecting.....i think he's probably an aspie.

definitely a strong thread of such in my family tree. in retrospect, in the army/civil service I was surrounded by them, so many of 'em were such rule worshipers, such legalists.

I have heard it described as A-dar

First their was radar
Then gaydar http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaydar
Now a-dar

I think I've got pretty good "A-dar." When I am in the prescence of another Autistic person, particularly one who is also ADHD [like me] I feel a rush of both "happy" and "my own kind." It is the most incredible "happy flappy" type feeling. If NTs' feel this whenever they see another NT, then I totally understand their love of socializing.