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Please remember: When you reply to a thread on an internet forum, it's like being in a fish bowl discussion (that's where a few people with knowledge on a topic sit surrounded by an audience and have a conversation or answer questions about that topic; it's a thing we did in one of my high school English classes); what this means is that the entire audience matters in every response you give.

Hostility and insults are rude to your audience, and your potential audience here is HUGE.

Thank you.

one can say "'tis better to be part of the solution rather than part of the problem" - but the real problem is too many meanies think THEY are the solution and that everybody else is the problem.

Sorry, I call it like I see it.

I'm a nice person when that's called for.

But there are some individuals around here -- most notably some of the unbelievable vicious freaks on the Love and Dating Hell Hole -- who are grudge-bearing, blindfolded, stubborn morons and....I call it like I see it.

I'm not going to sit here and be attacked without attacking back when I see that it's merited.

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Ya talkin' to me? LOL

Seriously:

I'm sorry you're angry about something. What bought about the anger?

Never you, kraftie!!

No. I'm referring to someone I ran into whose post was on the Love & Dating section. Quite some time ago someone had posted a topic in which I gave my opinion, and then was attacked for it (I and others who felt the same way I did, it wasn't just me) by a particular person who twisted every word some of us said on that thread, completely misinterpreting and slamming us for the viewpoint he was basically making up in his head. We were some women giving our experiences and our viewpoint -- this guy was a man trying to tell us what to think and belittling us for even feeling the way we felt. But worst, is, like I say, he put words in our mouth that were not even implied let alone said.

The whole thing reared up again recently. He posted a topic that started out seeming joyous and innocent -- so there was I reading it, having forgotten who this guy was because the other thread was so long ago.

Suddenly his new post contains a dredging up of the old thread, and a complete twisting of words again, of those of us who had posted there. Then I was like --- ooookayyy, it's THAT guy....And I couldn't believe he was still bringing that up. I had exited from that older thread early as he was completely out of line and I told him so.

This new one, I made my point and called him out on his BS.

So, while what the OP is saying is a nice sentiment and full of peace, etc, I have to say, nope, if someone is crapping all over me I'm going to crap right back as they deserve to be called out on their BS. I tend not to get into an endless "back and forth" because it's not worth the time, but I will say my piece, hence I basically disagree with the OP here.

She or he should tell THAT guy this stuff.

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No BirdInFlight LOL Your Flight Patterns are delightful

I meant Amethyst. She seemed angry at something. She felt so angry that she created a special post about it.

I promise, Amethyst: I won't attack you. You are a purple precious stone

Oh, oops!

I did kind of wonder!

Oh well that's cleared that up, lol!

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But thou art Neglectful, my sweet Avian Delight, in answering PMs

I think the OP was referring to the thread about being misdiagnosed with Asperger's so it sparked this discussion. The OP claimed about there being hostile and rude responses and attacks and insults, (can't be bothered to look right now to see what exactly the OP said) and I only saw one person claim he OP was catfishing because of their contradictory responses. But I didn't see any other replies being bad but one. I am not sure anymore what the user wanted to hear and they didn't understand what I was saying so I gave up not knowing how else to put it. Ironic because people have done it to me too so many times and couldn't be bothered to try and explain it or rephrase it so I would understand so they always went "never mind" and my therapist told me in high school lot of people just don't have the patience for it so they don't even try.

Sometimes people will say a post was bad when really it wasn't. People misinterpret or take things too personally or don't like the answer or advice so they will feel attacked. Sometimes it's just a misunderstanding and they may not know that.

I happen to participate in a couple of political discussion forums - compared to those places Wrong Planet is a sea of politeness, courtesy and respect. I'm sure some folks get a bit hotheaded around here. But having only participated in the forum for a couple of weeks - I would say that WP is in general a fairly courteous and congenial place. If some people are undermining that atmosphere - I would hope they would take a break and recover their sense of politeness.