when should you tell someone about your ASD?

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Hi everyone, i started school on the 3rd and i have to say its a lot better than i previously anticipated, all my classes are in lower levels, and the school is taking my ASD seriously. Everyone in my classes are more mature, so no one is picking on me (yet) and since i dont focus on fitting in, i can focus on my school work, but, i can still make small socialization with others. not only that, this routine i made is really clearing my mind, so going back to school was a great idea!

however, i did meet someone, a boy, and he said he really likes me, and i really like him, he said hes not a perosn who likes relationships to move fast and i can agree, we have kissed and talked about 'things' but other than that, im only a little flustered, but i can take time to calm down. heres the kicker, he doesnt know i have aspergers, he only knows i have OCD and ADHD, but he has ADHD too. im really comfortable around him, but i dont know how to tell him i have Aspergers, at first i thought he didn't need to know, but, if this relationship continues on, problems will arise, because i can only use so many learned social skills. how and when do i tell someone about my Aspergers?

Does he know very much about ASD as far as you know?

It depends. For me, my mom will often use my autism in ways most people might find to be an excuse. An example of this would be that she calls up the internet we have and tells them about my autism so they don't shut us off. This does help in many ways because without having the internet, my parents would be going through hell. I can't live without it because my routine is based around that, and it makes it harder for me to function if it were to get shut off.

There are other times when those with higher authority or places I go to that I meet accommodation have to know about it. That way, my parents can be sure that a meltdown won't occur.

In this case though, i would wait until you and him get to know each other more. Take things slowly with him and don't rush into it or else you might lose him too. I know my boyfriend also has a bit of OCD, but he also knew right away about my autism as well. I'm just very open about my disabilities because sometimes people have a right to know what they are.

well, we have a common friend, and he asked me "doesn't Mack have aspergers?' and i said "yes he does" and he replied "doesn't that mean hes always angry" and i said " well no its a neurological disorder affecting all parts of the brain, including sensory, socializing and communication and behavious" and to that i had no response, so i guess he sorta knows