Not good at anything except my special interest

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I need some insights from people on the boards. Is it really true AS people are only good at their special interests and nothing else? I've tried basically every game, every sport, literally everything I can think of and I'm not even remotely good at it, in fact I get laughed at for how bad I am at things. Its disheartening because I know my current special interest is transient. Plus to top that all off I can't seem to make or keep friendships either.

Also at work coworkers scoff at me (with the exception of one or two) because I actually help the customers. Yes, you heard that right, I just feel like a total idiot all the time, and I am intelligent but AS seems to make me seem dumb a lot for some reason.

I don't know what to do. I feel like my life was meant to be a curse. I mean who gives you a life where your only good at one thing?

Sorry all if this sounds negative, but I'm just quite frustrated.

They laugh at you because you help customers? Hwat?

I don't think people with AS necessarily are only good at their special interest.

Yes you got that right. These people wouldn't care if I fell off a building and died or was seriously injured. I can't find any hobbies other than this temporary, transient interest. I feel trapped, like I'm stuck at an invisible wall, and I just can't seem to get good at ANYTHING! I'm not even that good at school, I do well for a little while but once its fully into the college semester I always seem to find some way to screw up. Basically I feel like a screw up.

Did I kill a president in a past existence to get this treatment? Am I really just THAT unlucky??

I have been depressed for a while because of this, everything has just gotten discouraging, and not worth trying anymore. The only thing my brain seems wired to do is act like a vegetable, and do my interest.

Again, my apologies if this sounds so negative, but wouldn't you feel this way if you were stuck in this position?

Last edited by duck12 on 11 Feb 2015, 7:33 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Nope...it's not true.

People with Asperger's are capable of learning just like "NT's" are capable of learning.

Thats an interesting point.....I never thought of that. I always thought we had some deficit which prevented us from learning as effectively as NT people do.

Unless you have a specific "learning disability" like dyslexia, there is no disorder of learning in Asperger's.

I dont have dyslexia, but I do have dysgraphia and a bit of dyspraxia. So maybe that has something to do with it?

Also I noticed I have an issue when it comes to focusing on too many things at one time like I can only focus on one thing at a time.

Last edited by duck12 on 11 Feb 2015, 8:00 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Dysgraphia and dyspraxia doesn't interfere with learning. They're more of a "physical" thing.

My handwriting is bad, but not dysgraphic. I'm clumsy, but not dyspraxic.

If your handwriting is legible at all, you probably don't have dysgraphia--you just have bad handwriting.

If you are able to ride a bike, you're probably not severely dyspraxic; you might just be "clumsy."

I could never ride a bike.

I might have something else, something is definitely wrong.

Are you able to write legibly? I don't mean "perfect" handwriting. I mean....could somebody else read it? If so, you probably don't have dysgraphia.

I bet you "have" less than you think you "have."

If you're able to keep a retail job, especially something like bagging things and cashiering, you're probably not severely dyspraxic. If you were severely dyspraxic, I'm sure you wouldn't have been able to keep a Walmart job.

I'm not very good at bagging things. I'm clumsy. I'm not dyspraxic.

Last edited by kraftiekortie on 11 Feb 2015, 8:05 pm, edited 1 time in total.

No, my handwriting is basically all scribbles. I always have to type, there is no choice. As I said in a past post I never could tie my shoelaces until I was 20!! And even now its difficult. I have a formal diagnosis of dysgraphia, and my bagging skills haven't gotten much better. Driving is gonna be near impossible for me I bet, because I can't seem to steer the wheel properly.

It seems I have sensory processing disorder when it comes to studying music sheets or studying for a test, which makes it seem ten times harder for me. I look normal, yet people don't get the lengthy amount of issues my AS causes me.

Also I couldn't even cross the street until my late teens. I know that sounds embarrassing, but its true.

Last edited by duck12 on 11 Feb 2015, 8:15 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I think you did excellent by keeping that retail job, frankly.

I think that showed lots of willpower. I'm not just saying this.

Being clumsy is not something that's conducive to success in retail jobs.

Yeah...I have to concede...if you could not tie your shoelaces until you were 20, you're probably dyspraxic.

It does not interfere with intelligence, though. You are of at least average intelligence.

I am extremely persistent and tough with most things in life but 95% do not succeed, due to a combo of AS, depression, dysgraphia, Social Anxiety, a food allergy, and paranoid or psychotic thoughts. I always try my very hardest and try to be the best I can be with everything. I am aware of my shortcomings, and I know they are certainly more than an average person would have. DDD won't give me disability, which I desperately need, due to a higher than normal income due to child support. Intelligence wise, I am of average intelligence but just a few years ago my IQ was tested at borderline mental retardation.

I feel my biological age is 16, not 22.

Last edited by duck12 on 11 Feb 2015, 8:14 pm, edited 3 times in total.

When you applied for the retail job, did you have to WRITE OUT an application--or could you do it online?

Yes... I can tell that you try hard. I think, once you find your niche, that you'll be successful.