stress and how to handle it

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My son is working, but stress creates situations which he doesnt handle very well..and he is perfectionist, feeling very bad for mistakes who arent as big as he feels them. We have tried to find out what situations create stress, to be able to avoid them, but i (his mum) feels he might get some use of a technique to learn to handle stress better, and to not beat himself up cos of mistakes he makes. He want so badly to succeed in this job....

Anyone who has any suggestions for us, would be appreciated a lot!

If he's a reader I recommend reading "Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns. He'll learn a lot about dealing with his own perfectionism and overreactions to things, as well as other tools. It's a long read, but worth while.

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What is his job?

I have gone through the same thing, it takes a while but if he's that determined to do good at his job, he will, and hopefully then he'll realize there is no need to "sweat the small stuff", but it's not easy, I still beat myself up over needless things. Hopefully he has a manager than can mentor him. It would be interesting to know his job.

His job is truckdriver, picking up cargo, securing it and delivering it. He does come up with good ideas for his boss on how the route and disposition of cars can be for cheapest travels. This time he had a cargo with bottles that partly fell over, and 4 bottles were destrøyed. Partly because the bottles werent secured very good in plastic, partly because he fears he didnt secure them well enough, or because of holes in the road. He thinks he could have avoided this if he didnt get so stressed, cos it was the end of a long day and he was hungry and needed to catch the ferry. And dreads to tell his boss about it, because he so desperately want this do this job good. He started this job a month ago. Its about 3 days a week, which is more then enough for him, but the days are long....

Ill check out about this book, ty for the tip

I think the feeling good book would be useful too, because it has techniques for not blowing something bad out of proportion, like not letting the bottles thing stress him out too much and letting these things go be more relaxed and happy.

Unless he is responsible for making sure the load is secure on the pallet, or in the boxes, as a truck driver he shouldn't have an issue, his main responsibility would be to secure the load on the truck/trailer so that it doesn't shift inside the vehicle during transport. If the packers/loaders didn't wrap enough plastic or strap it together properly, it shouldn't reflect badly on him.

That was indeed the case, too little plastic wrapped around, but still it stresses him out immensely. But if he wasnt so hungry and tired, he might have not been just as stressed, so we working on some ideas to prevent the hungryness, and we try to teach him techniques like meditation to just get in control of the stress so it wont blow things out of proportion. But i guess its a part of aspergers....
Thanks for the replies anyway

It is not so abnormal to blow things out of proportion.
There are many non-autistic people who do it.
It is a common feature of anxiety disorders.