A crossroads in my life and mind

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ASD Aspergers whatever that is me.

With a lot of help from this forum and other places and myself I have learned enough social skills to the stage that I do not get bullied nor would I take it along with a new and lasting self confidence.

I can now fiction among NTs.

I have made a really good friends with a relative less then half my age with classic autism.

I do not fully fit in with the NTs but I have gained enough social skills to earn a respectable pass.
I feel guilty calling myself autistic at this stage.

Anyway here is my question learning all this for me has not been easy but I would consider it worth it.

My relative when he makes social blunders that he is oblivious to him do I handle it?

I don't want to put him down I know I had enough of people putting me down.

However when I try to discuss his blunders in a friendly way he says ok and it goes over his head.

By the way when I say I get a respectable pass among NTs I can join in with banter and friendly teasing but relationships are a total loss to me.

I could never make friends.

I am being a friend to my younger relative but I do not feel qualified to pass on what I have leaned.

By the way my life is not perfect I still have challenges but not having to contend with bullying is a major breakthrough for me.

My relative needs guidance as much as he needs a friend and that is what I am struggling with.

In my opinion anything you say will form a basis for debate or thoughts, we are the sum of our parts. Just be honest and have his best interests at heart. He doesn't sound like he'll take wrongly worded things as invalidation, so just be a good buddy!

In my opinion, you should be a teacher to your relative. You want that person to grow up, right? You've grown up a bit--and now you have the tools to teach somebody to grow up as well. Don't deny your relative the opportunity to be a viable human being.

Don't criticize your relative, though. Just tell him something like "In my experience, this is what you should do in [certain social situations]." Let your relative see the results of making use of your advice.

Hmm I'm not sure what you could do. Maybe help him sometimes if he makes a social mistake but not always

What are some examples of his " social blunders"? I wouldn't think it'd be a bad thing to talk about them with him, as long as your not calling him out in public or using his flaws to come up top socially.

That's a cool picture, SharkAttack!