Attraction-blindness.

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I can recognise some faces. But what I can never recognise is attractive features. Even when there is a unanimous "yes" from everyone that someone is really attractive, I cannot see that at all. I just see brown hair, blue eyes, small nose etc.

Also I do not have the capacity to experience love. I don't know what love feels like. And I am completely asexual and have been all the time.

Does anyone else experience any, or all of this?

I think it's because most attractive people have similar faces.

I remember as a kid I told my mum all the other kids look the same. Lol

I rarely see why others think someone is attractive, often if they find someone attractive I don't. Also if I think someone is attractive they don't tend to. I also have never been sexually attracted to anyone but there are some people I think are attractive but in an aesthetically pleasing/they are quite nice to look at sort of way. I also have no clue what love is, I've never understood how people can be in love or love someone and I've never missed anyone ever, I don't understand when people say I've missed you or things like that.

Yeah, I really don't understand what "attractive" is beyond having no facial deformities. I just see people as, well, people. I have never thought "damn he is hot" or had a "celebrity crush", or any "crush" for that matter. I just don't get it. I have never felt "attraction" towards physical features.

As for love... to me it's someone as a best friend forever. Like you always want to know them and have a lot of attachment to them.

I've never felt any sexual, romantic, or aesthetic attractions to anyone (or anything) so my version of "love" would be different to someone with them. I have no desire to ever have sex, romance seems weird and I don't get it, people all look like people. I'm fairly certain I'm asexual.

I can tell when someone is attractive, but I can't really tell if I'm sexually attracted to someone. I might be asexual, but I think I'm too sexually frustrated to be asexual. Guess I'm just not in touch with my sexuality.

I'm pretty similar to you guys. I'm asexual but I can fall love and have been in love before.

I'm a straight guy but I feel this way about other men, I can tell what a male model and total beast looks like but but the middle part I have no clue. I really have no clue where I fall myself. I imagine if I were gay then I'd probably have more of an opinion on the matter. Whether or not a woman is physically attractive is usually immediately apparent.

Yup. Mainstreamers seem to have a consensus on who looks good and who doesn't. More often than not, I don't agree with it. I agree that most of their "Walmartians" look pretty scary, but the mainstream idea of the perfect-looking man or woman is miles away from mine. With me, a man loses points for looking too hunky, and a woman loses points for wearing conspicuous makeup if it's of the usual mainstream style.

I think it's referred to in the Aspie-Quiz as "an alternative view of beauty."

The other thing is that I'm more geared to a person's behaviour than their outward appearance, when it comes to being attractive:

I am doing well if I can tell one person apart from another... other than the most basic of traits, I usually cannot tell people apart unless I know them and if I meet someone I know in another context (say meeting a coworker at Walmart) I just will not recognize them.

My attraction blindness is different. I can tell if someone is attractive or not. I can feel attracted to others. I just can't pick up if they are attracted to me most of the time. That is the blindness I have. Or maybe no one really was every attracted to me!

Looks never mattered at all to me.
I love a person because of who they are and what they mean to me. I want to recognize that they are a person and what they think of me is important and my ex knew I beat myself up about this every day.

I don't have a sense of physical attraction either. I don't have this kind of 'taste'. People kept asking me if someone's pretty/beautiful/gorgeous/sexy/handsome, I end up with a blank, if not just describing what the OP says. I never had a crush on anyone...

I can tell people apart. I can tell if someone is rather nondescript or with unusual physical features, but never tell what calls an attractive look.

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I'm sort of on the asexuality spectrum & I have a hard time finding people attractive but that may be somewhat related to me having a rare low vision disorder & some colorblindness. I do have the capacity to feel love thou & have a girlfriend I'm very loving with.