Facebook and social media

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I've registered to Facebook but It certainly made me feel paranoid. People are so desperate to fit and do everything just to get a few more likes. I have to admit I tried it myself to be more popular by acting someone I'm not and this just made me feel like living in a lie because the online person was too different than me in real life and this motivated me to delete all social apps because it influenced me in a wrong way which is certainly brainwashing IMO
The way some people invest time to build up an online character and behave like everyone else to fit in a crowd is just devastating for self image. What if my pictures just get 5 likes and everybody else have 100 likes..
This person worth 20 times more than me? Many people think this way and rank themselves based on how much likes they can get for each picture and check who have more friends or followers.

I don't use Facebook in that way.
I only use it to keep in touch with people I know and to follow things that interest me.
If it's causing you paranoia, it's certainly not mandatory for you to be on there.

serious question. do you have to have fb? could you not live without it? unless you have rellies in far flung places, why not ditch it?

i got fb about a year ago simply to join a group because i was invited, thru a mutual acquaintance, for a particular interest of mine... i rarely go on there. i don't have any personal details or pics on there. i only add people from the group i belong to, if i get sent friend requests. all my settings are set to the highest security possible. i don't have my real name on there.
and that is the sum of my involvement on fb. i could just as easily delete it but then, i would lose the resources i have access to within this group, so i keep it.

just because the rest of the world is doing something, doesn't mean you have to if you don't want to. personally i find the mindless and narcissistic self absorption of people on social media barf-worthy so i don't bother with it.

why not do the same if you aren't finding it fun?

You know that film with Bruce Willis where people live their lives through robotic avatars and nobody has real lives? Its like that. Its crap.

Facebook can make you unpopular as well as popular; it can go either way or no way at all.

I'm on FB and am so embarrassed about my online presence there and elsewhere (and with my reputation in other, more solid places) that I'm gonna change my name in RL.

But if used right, FB is a wonderful tool to make friends in groups you can search for using keywords.

Never had facebook or anything like it. I join up with forums occasionally but mostly to share interests or gain information on something.
I'm rather twitchy about sticking my head up above the parapet and entering anything about myself in the public domain. With a forum you can remain as anonymous as you wish... would any of you recognise me if I walked down the street?
I thought maybe I could get in touch with people I went to school/university with 40+ years ago... then I thought, why would I want to do that?

The thing about social media is that you can use it as either an outlet for connecting with people or a confidence-building tool. And the latter form of use is certainly one thing that I feel is grossly wrong wih social media. People who measure their self-worth by numbers on a screen are like parasites - unpleasant and best gotten rid of.

Now I'm not suggesting to commit illegal acts towards those people, but rather to make them wake up to the fact that they're hurting themselves by relying on social media to either boost or crush their confidence. Disconnect from them, if you will.

I'm too lazy to bother with upkeep of FB. Aside from that, I'm totally disinterested in it.

I was talking with someone I really like who is very smart and she suggested poignantly when I mentioned facebook that "it's all fake."

When I first joined facebook I was getting up to around 250 friends on my friends list and I was like hm, this doesn't seem accurate to me, I hardly hang out with anybody ever. I have like five friends.

So I whittled down my friends list and a bunch of people got furious that I 'unfriended' them but it feels nice to make that choice, to get rid of high drama person, or whatever you can't tolerate. (I keep around 40-45 friends on my list these days!) Online is so unregulated and people have a real 'anything goes' mentality at times...which can be purging for the typist but harmful for the readers for sure.

I deactivate my facebook during work hours and reactivate on weekends if I feel like talking with people. Mostly there are a few funny and informative and inspirational pages I like to have access to, but when it turns into "I'm gonna do something really fun so I can have something to talk about on facebook" that's when I know it's headed into not-real territory.

I also have experienced severe 'energy drain' online over the past few years. Certain people, I will interact with and later I will feel like I have a gaping hole in my chest. I stop talking with them and it goes away. I believe they are considered energy vampires.

I have about 55 friends. Mostly relatives and people off forums. Not many people reply to my posts.

I find social media gives me anxiety but I like to share some art on it. Nobody is really obligated to use it the way other people use it. Some people have a few friends. I love the hilarious videos some people post, but I hate reading people's comments on it.

I only use Facebook mainly to show off my crafts artwork. Although I don't think anyone really looks at them except for one or two people. Of course, none of my artwork has pornographic fan art of female anime or video game characters. I mean, I do have some artwork of video game characters, but they're G-rated. Except my Animal South Park Crossing parody, which is maybe more PG-rated. Oh well.

I had a regular Facebook account many years ago. I liked it when I first joined it, but it changed a lot over the years and I didn't like what it had turned into. It got to the point where I really wasn't enjoying it and didn't have the energy or interest to keep up with it. For quite awhile I never went on there unless I got an email notification that I had a private message on there. Then at some point they made some changes that were just dealbreakers for me as far as not feeling safe on that site. So I deleted all of my personal info from there and deactivated my account. I don't miss it at all.

I do have another Facebook account that I just use strictly for gaming. It has no personal info on it, and I don't really interact with anyone on there. I tried Twitter briefly, but I couldn't get the hang of it and didn't really have the energy for that site either.

I do use Tumblr a fair bit, but it's mostly just for looking at pictures of things I like and I don't really socialize too much on there. It was definitely a place that I'd use to post fanfic/fanart when I was more active with that sort of thing.

My opinion is that if any website is causing you distress and you're really not getting anything good out of it, then why keep using it? There are other ways to stay in touch with people that are actually important to you.

As for myself I mainly use the site for the various buyers clubs and hobby type groups, the conversation is pretty technical. I did make the mistake of looking up all of my old friends from school, well I say friends but I barely spoke 2 words to them at the time. All of them appear to be successful. It was like opening a can of worms, cause school was rubbish and lonely.

Also, people only put up the best parts of their lives there, comparing yourself to a Facebook friend is utterly futile.

I only use social media websites (Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, etc.) for keeping up with my favorite shows and the actors and actresses from them. I like using them to meet other fans and discuss related topics with them. I mostly use my computer for them so that I don't feel constantly overwhelmed by all the social drama that happens on them, especially on Twitter and Tumblr. I find those websites the most exhausting, but I still use them to keep up with news. When I have taken breaks in the past, I have felt "out of the loop" and like I don't know what is going on, so I try to log on only a couple of times a day for just a few minutes.

Its a very insidious site, its probably designed that way. When I'm taking a few weeks off it, at the back of my mind I'm thinking about all the little red numbers. I get it in my head all these people have been desperately trying to reach me, but in reality it's just people commenting on threads ive been on.

I find it very useful for buying/ selling things though.