Do you feel less mature than other people your own age?

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Have you ever felt less mature than people the same age as you? Either mentally less mature, that is to say less mature you your attitude, work ethic, etc or less mature in your achievements, academic or career-wise or less mature in the way you relate to others or in your understanding of things.

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Yes, always and in every sense.

In some ways, socially and emotionally, I feel like I'm still 9 or 10. I get on well with children but it's more of a child-child way rather than adult-child. Though in some ways I think I stopped at more 12. Very rarely do I feel I'm about the same as my actual age. Sometimes I feel like I'm 20 odd years older than I actually am.

Of course I feel less mature than people my age. I've stupidly wasted so many years of my life there's simply no way I'll ever catch up with them. Therefore, whenever I feel more mature than them, I know I am forgetting something very important.

I feel like my maturity levels are skewed one way or the other. I have a lot of trouble organizing my professional and personal life, but at the same time I've avoided many of the interpersonal and emotional struggles others went through. I learned to apologize in friendships and tolerate people of different religions or political parties quickly, and I started questioning beliefs in childhood. I left my parents' religion with very little fuss.

Still, that other people know how to just jump into life and make it work for them in a material sense is a wonder to me.

On various occasions i have had people tell me that i act like a 13 year old boy, i am the most emotionally intelligent person they have ever met, i have an old soul, and that i have the maturity of one half my age.

i'm not entirely sure what to think

I'm 54. I should have raised kids to adulthood already, I should have been a grandpa.

I've never had a kid.

Truly...I feel like I'm still at the cusp of adulthood. Almost 35 years younger than my chronological age.

Intellectual age: around 200
Emotional age: around 10

To each, their own. I'd welcome all the stress in the world in exchange for fulfilling my biological goal of perpetuating my genes. But no, it won't happen, because nothing I can do will ever be enough.

I very often feel either less mature or more mature than others of similar biological age.
Also, "perpetuating my genes" has not changed that feeling at all.
Could this whole thing be just a result of spectrumites being generally less centered on an age-bracket based peer group?

Yes, I do. Other people my age are having jobs, driving, etc., and I feel like I am more dependent on my parents than them. Also, I still like a lot of the same books that I liked as a preteen. Then when I have a meltdown over something that seems small to everyone else, I REALLY feel immature.

I absolutely feel less mature than others my own age. I don't really know any other 20-somethings who still don't drive, still love animated movies and get excited about them the way a young child would, and carry a bag full of small plushies and stim toys with them in order to just feel okay with leaving their house/apt for any length of time.

On the other hand, there are times when I actually feel MORE mature than people my own age - I was very responsible about my studies during my undergrad career at college, didn't go to drunken parties or join a sorority, and some of the recreational activities enjoyed by other 20-somethings honestly make me cringe. Maybe my development has just been uneven so that I'm mature in some ways and not so much in other areas.

A colleague of mine actually said to me the other week "babybird, you will never get old".